how can 2 people who are different christain religions raised their children without conflict!?

Question

my fiance and i are planted deeply in our beliefs, we are to be married in 2009. we love eachother so much, the problem is we cant decide how to raise our much desired children. he wants to raise them in his church and i want to raise ours in mine. he suggested finding a church together, but im not sure if i can do that. any suggestions PLEASE? i dont want to loose him

Answer 1

you could alternate churches, his one week , yours the next.

if that wont work you could just not force religion down their throat. and see what happens. i think it's better to give an idea, about Christ, but if you can't decide between 2 faiths, then maybe you should just omit it... you know you can still praise the lord, and prayer at means, and when ever.... and just teach them the basics, i'm not saying give up religion.

i just think maybe keeping it simple witout the differences of your guy's religion.

Answer 2

I think he has the best solution. I would try to find a non-denominational church together that has the elements of what you like about both churches... As your kids grow up, they will form opinions of their own and will most likely find churches that fint their needs too. You just need to find a church that teaches strong christian values and gives your kids an opportunity to fellowship with other Christians.

Please don't let something like this divide your relationship if this is the only problem you guys are facing. Imagine how much harder it must be for couples who are of different religions. You guys are really on the right track... just start visiting churches together... and who knows, by the time you have kids you may be living in a different city/state with a whole mess of other churches to choose from.

Answer 3

If you are both Christians what does the flavor of the church (the ritual of the delivery) have to do with the message.. If they don't preach Jesus, that He is Lord, Savior and King then find a new church.. If they don't teach the Bible as the only revelation of God. If they don't teach that salvation comes by God's grace through faith in Christ ONLY then run don't walk until you find a good bible believing church that you both like...IHS

Answer 4

If you want your marriage to work sacrifices will have to be made. That seems to be the law of the land, at least when it comes to relationships. Decide which is more important, going to YOUR specific church, or finding a church with your future husband, one where you can worship TOGETHER instead of SEPARATELY. Who knows, you may like it. And if you both worship God then what is the problem anyway?

Answer 5

Most of those in my faith, the ones of different religions, each teach the children their faith and alternate taking them to each church or place of worship until each child is say 16 or 18 and can decide on their own.

Most children raised such, tend to chose ours.

Debbie

Answer 6

Be clear on your priorities! This is something that you have to be able to come to some sort of agreement BEFORE you make your wedding vows. Alternatively, you decide that being married to him is more important than passing on your faith to your children. (He could do the same of course, but you can't control his decisions, only your own.) It's not going to be easy, but you must make a decision that you can live with, or be miserable and maybe feel guilt for a long time.

Answer 7

you should have thought about this before getting together, the whole point of marriage is to raise Godly children, if your different beliefs stand in your way then you've already lost. think it over lest your children grow up and reject God. Good luck.

Answer 8

It would help to know what denominations you both practice, but aside from that why can't you take them to one church one week and the other the next? Or better yet, let them make up their own minds in regards to religion.

Answer 9

"........different christian religions........."

Christian Denominations, are not different Christian religions, they are different Denominations of the same religion. It is a pet peeve of mine when I see/hear people calling Denominations with in Christianity, different religions !

OK, now I'll answer your question:

If you are both Saved, Borne Again, and attending Bible believing Churches, then it is usually the "custom" of the wife to join her new Husbands Church. It that is not the case, one of you has a problem.
OM

Answer 10

The two of you need to sit down and discuss what you want your child to learn from both of you, and teach them that and make alotments for your seperate beliefs. If you can't reach a compromise despite love than it isn't meant to be.