Strange simpathy?

Question

I met once one boy who looked interesting to me. I didn't noticed him before but I saw him sometimes smiling at me. I thought it's not something special. I am quite complicated and I have problems with myself sometimes.

And once I was in a lesson and rised my head and I saw he was gazing at me. It was quite warm and I liked that.
I have a few persons who understand me indeed. And I thought that he could be one of them. Then I started to look for some information on the internet. And I saw his form once where he looked very communicating and courageous person who has many girls around him. Something like 'ladies' man'. Nothing similar to me. In the lessons he smiled at me.

Once I saw he walking in the street with a friend. I said him 'hallo' but he didn't answered. So I didn't understand why he smiled at me but didn't greet me in the street?
Maby there is some kind of persons who have 'two lifes' - one with many friends and another with serious,intellegant personalities?

Answer 1

Something like that yes, but not quite the way its laid out. Lets just say there is a social "idealized" self, and a personal "genunie" self and they tend to make us do strange behaviors becuase the "idealized" self is a illision we use that helps us feel social secure. Its about social survival really and most of our lives is lived trying to combind the two. But realize your new to the relationships field (Trust most 50 years olds act lets mature then you about this stuff) but your intellegent, honest and truthful, to me that makes you powerful. So relax, keep watch the human behavior unfold in front of you, and learn from it. Realize the facts are such that unless that person GENIUNELY loves you, it doesn't matter, that type of love can't be stopped.....