I lost my virginity last week. I met a guy and we really hit it off and ended up having sex. It wasn't planned and we didn't use a condom (stupid I know). We got together again the next night and I had him use a condom but he said afterwards he didn't like using them so he broke up with me. I'm not sure if it was really over the condom issue or not since I also lied about my age (I'm 13 but told him I was 15) and told him the truth afterwards. I want to know why he broke up with me so I was thinking if I got on the pill he could have sex with me again without a condom like he likes and I wouldn't have to worry about getting pregnant. Then I'd know if it was the condom thing or the age thing. Should I get on the pill? And can I do it without a parent since my parents would flip if they found out I was sexually active?
2007-11-19 01:21:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I were you I'd definitely get on the pill. Check your area for family planning clinics. You can get birth control there without your parents. I was your age when I starting having sex and I did the same thing because my parents were really old-fashioned and would have killed me if they knew I was having sex. As a matter of fact they found out when I was 14 and flipped out then. The important thing is to protect yourself. Take care.
2007-11-19 02:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Ashley,
Ok I see that most people here have really given you the low down on getting on the pill and still using a condom etc.
My opinion is this....as a beautiful young girl that you are, you need to respect yourself enough to know that you needn't feel the need to lie about your age, sweety, you are precious....and I believe you have so much going for you and that you needn't have to prove yourself to anyone for any reason.
I personally think you should reconsider being sexually active simply because when the right guy comes along and you decide to get married to him, then the first time won't be as special as you would like it to be...I don't mean to lecture you hon, but at the same time you need to take a look at the direction your life is taking.
I hope at the end of all this, that you will learn from this bad experience.
Take care and God bless
S.
2007-11-19 01:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sonsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your on the pill, there is no for sure chance that you won't get pregnant. And just to be sure he doesn't have STDs or aids you should still use a condom. Always wear a condom. No matter what. I'm 13 and if I was sexually active I would for sure make him wear one because I am not taking any chances. He's not worth it if he won't listen to you, always use protection, although birth control will help.
2007-11-19 01:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I believe you can go to Planned Parenthood and get the pill without your parents consent but if you are going to have sex the pill only prevents pregnancy and you need to keep in mind that STDs are very common and some have no cure!! Therefore, you need to use a condom every time if the guy doesn't agree to do so he is not worth it.
****And I am in no way advocating that you have sex at such a young age but it seems you have already made up your mind so you might as well be safe if you are going to do it. ****
2007-11-19 01:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by scooter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are more things than just getting pregnant you should worry about...and yes teenagers have all of them...HIV most importantly.
You should get on the pill anyway, but I think this new boy just wants you for sex, get rid of him. If he doesn't want to wear condoms with you, what makes you think he does with anyone else? Who knows how many girls he has been with? And boys (especially teenage ones) will always lie about how many they have been with just to make themselves more important when it comes to the situtation.
As for your family, yes they will be upset about your sexual activity, but at this point, they really can't change things back, all they will care about is that your safe, so I would go to them anyway. I would probably go to your dad before your mom, because when it comes to issues like this, your dad will probably look at it with a more level head.
Eitherway, go see a doctor for all tests.
2007-11-19 01:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by John L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get on the pill and you can go to any state facility and get on it without your parents even knowing. There is nothing worse than getting pregnant at your age and you will regret it if you do. If he broke up with you because you were trying to be careful then he is not worth having. There are lots of guys out there that are worth having but you need to realize that you are just a child yourself and you need to think about this before you keep going with the sexual activity. I work in a hospital where I deliver babies to kids your age and its very sad because they have to give up their own childhood to be a parent and its not that easy to be a parent especially at your age. Think before you act is all that I can say to you but you definately need to get on the pill to make sure that you keep your childhood
2007-11-19 01:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop. You are really young to be having sex. Don't take the pill and don't have sex unless you are using a condom. So I guess not to have sex with that guy because he doesn't like using condoms. I hope I helped.
2007-11-19 01:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oooo! red lights should be flashing. um you need to watch out for std's & even condoms dont fully protect you from some of the more common ones. but NOT using a condom is well as you said stupid. its actually beyond stupid. im not sure if you'll ever really know the truth and im not sure if its worth even trying to find out. but i would suggest going to get tested for stds & pregnancy. planned parenthood is the best for your age. many girls have gone through the same thing you have so you'll survive as well, even though it feels so intense now. good luck.
2007-11-19 01:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by first timer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R u sure that u r alreay no pregnant bcz u had unsafe sex. Check if u r pregnant kid. And next time dont do it without condom. There is no problem doing it with condoms for guys. It doesnot feel bad at all. So dump that guy.
2007-11-19 01:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by Niel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to alter the course of your life. You are way too young and immature to be having physical relationships with boys--at your age they are NOT guys. Rather than worrying about being on the pill, you need to get your act together and do your home work. You should talk to a school counselor. I'm with your parents.
2007-11-19 01:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by Ace Librarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋