How old is too old for a young boy to sleep with his mother?

Question

I work shift work. Midnight shifts. He is 10 years old. Mother is divorced. I come home and he is sleeping with her. I am not a freak just curious or should I say something.

Answer 1

I beleave no child should sleep with their parents. Get him in his own bed...

Answer 2

Not sure if this will help but my son is 7 and still sleeps w/ me on occassion. He has his own room and bed but when my husband is at work(he works 3rd shift) and only then is he allowed in our bed. Hubby works a few days on and a few days off so it is usually only 2 or three nights a week.

Answer 3

As long as they are both comfortable with it then it shouldn't matter. I was very clingy to my mother and slept with her 90% of the time until I was about 12. She is his mother, if he doesn't care then neither should anyone else. Good Luck

Edit: and to all these rude people on here, being close to your mother does not give you developmental issues. I'm perfectly fine now. And for a boy to be so loving I would be thrilled, not discouraging him. Hes old enough to make his own decision on this sort of thing and I'm sure he has plenty of alone time when he wants it.

Answer 4

I have a family member that is doing this. He is 11 and she is divorced. I think it is VERY unhealthy. I mean, if there is only one bed or it is just necessary, then fine. But if they're just doing it, it could screw this lil' boy up. My family member treats the child like he is her partner (minus the physical aspect). She confides in him, things that an 11 year old boy should never hear. It really disgusts me because this boy is not getting to be a lil' boy.

Answer 5

I put a stop to it at 3-4 years old. I think 10 is way to old, my son was 3-4 when I caught him playing with himself and if he already had that innocent curiosity, then his own bed was where he belonged for so many normal developmental reasons.

Answer 6

If it is a one time thing he may just have felt the need for comfort so slept with his mom, but if this is a regular thing then it is too old and he should be sleeping in his own bed.

Answer 7

I agree, until about the age of 8/9 max. It's not healthy emotionally for a child to sleep with his mom. Normally they make the break themselves, but circumstances like illness, divorce, etc. can affect this. Try to be gentle about this. You are the world to him when he's small.

Answer 8

well you know what it depends on the child like if he is scared or is stress then i would let him i think 9 and 10 is to old lol but 6 and 7 is fine on the odd occasion but i would say four for every night kind of thing lol though it does depend

Answer 9

Every night or on occasion? He should be sleeping in his own room by 3, but obviously if there is a night where he is scared (like if theres a storm or something) then it is acceptable up until the age of 10 or eleven maybe?

Answer 10

4 or 5 .. it could really mess him up an give him issues..
plus it will be harder to get him to sleep alone in a room..
but really don't go over the 8-9 age coz then is just weird

Answer 11

A child should always sleep in their own bed, but it's ok to come in if sick or scared. I think by the time they are at school, boy or girl should be out of that habit.