Boyfriend help?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half already, I thought everything was just fine, but one day out of the blue he told me he doesn't want us to be labeled as boyfriend and girlfriend any longer. He told me that he needs to concentrate with his career/education more and that a girlfriend will only limit his option. So I figured we should end our relationship because he doesn't want the commitment, but he said that he still want me to be there for me and that he's not looking for someone to replace me. We live together so it's impossible for us to be friends only. we live and work together so I know he's not cheating on or planning to replace me ( he said so him self ). We have a house together that we both bought so it's a little hard for us to just separate because of legal matters. So I don't know how to act around him...should I act like i'm his girlfriend or just act like i'm his friend? So should I leave him or should I stay and be patience? Please help me!

Answer 1

If I were you I would not stick around. You spent a good amount of time being his girlfriend and all of a sudden he doesn't want that commitment anymore (I mean you even live together so that's a big jump). It sounds to me like he is just keeping you around in case he doesn't meet anyone else, almost like a backup plan.

Answer 2

You don't act like his girlfriend if you don't have a boyfriend. That's a very important rule. He has technically broken up with you, the "having a girlfriend will only limit his options" is a complete load of crap. To me, the relationship is over, but it's a murky over. He may not be replacing you with anyone, but he's replacing you with no one. Move your stuff into the spare room, then divide up the cupboards and start going out a lot (even if it's just to your mum's.) Behave like a housemate, because that's the status you're in. Don't do his washing, don't put his clothes away, don't cook for him, don't walk around in your underwear, don't let him in the bathroom while you're showering. It's ok to tell him where you have been or what you are planning to do, but if he asks where you are going "just out" is a perfectly acceptable thing to say to a housemate. Don't invite him. If he decides he wants his girlfriend back, insist he puts some effort into courting you.

Answer 3

ignore him for a while and let him know what it would be like w/ out you.
so when he is home go sumwhere...or leave b4 he gets back,
dont sleep in the same bed no more.
dress up when he is around -- wear sumthin that looks sexy on ya & do ur hair n make up-- (get dressed n stuff b4 he gets home tho)
so he will want ya but then he cant have ya since he said he wants to be friends or w/e, and if he does still wanna be w/ u as bf/gf then he will give in

Answer 4

Weird situation...

From what you have written it doesn't seem you weren't in the way of anything. He has made the commitment of a long-term future (eg. buying a house together). He should follow through with his commitment of the relationship rather than a career.

Answer 5

It will be better if you have a open talk with him in this matter...
Ask him that how you will limit his option?? In fact you can be more supportive and help him to go ahead.....

You can also give him some time to decide.... if it doen't work then it's better to leave him... cos if there is no commitment in the relationship it is worthlesss....

Answer 6

the best thing you can do is mjust give him some space and some time by his self like let him or you go n stay at your mums thats what i had to do my man went and stayed at his mums as this happened to me and eventually it took like 3 or 4 days then we got back together and its better than ever

hope this helps a little

xx

Answer 7

plz have a patience ,so that u can understand his prob. may be he must be realy thinking of his carrier,but there is no need to stop ur relationship, any way ,u have full right to ask him whats the matter& know the real reason.

Answer 8

um how odd. well have you ever had a roommate? sounds like you've got one now. find out from him what his problem would be if you dated someone else. don't do it, haha, just ask him. and if the thought upsets him ask him what the deal is then. and if he doesn't want committment maybe you need to find a different place to live. i don't think i could do that...live with someone if we weren't a couple anymore...just too weird.

Answer 9

it would desire to be stressful for you, yet your mom is in basic terms keeping you and would not prefer something to ensue to you. Age distinction would not remember she would be able to constantly assume a guy is to previous for you because of the fact which you're her daughter. And sure your mom would have met your father the same time you met yours and your mom probable made some blunders that she in basic terms would not prefer repeated to you. in basic terms hear to her because of the fact interior the tip if something does ensue to you, you will sense undesirable for no longer listening and you will remorseful with reference to the consequence.

Answer 10

wow tough dont put ur life on hold. go on just like u would regularly. if a nice guy wants to go out then go out. sounds like he wants it his way. if he wants everything the same then why would he wouldnt want 2 be your bf i think this is a excuse for him to date other girls while u wait 4 him. just bc u dont see girls doesnt mean he doesnt have any good luck have a girls night out!!!!