Is there really an alter ego of a person ? Do you check that ,when you are dating a man/woman ?

Answer 1

Don't confuse yourself with terms like "alter ego" thats not really a good way to see it. To someone un versed you might assume its an entirly different personality, or a totally alien self. Not the case really. There are levels to an idividual, thats all you need to really be consered with. What symbols, play or behavior they have is mute to the fact that this is a natural occurence, its what gives rise to people's personalities. So think of it as their is a geniune self, we hide, and an "ideal" self that we project. What we try to do in life is make them one and the same, hard work and conflicts with this set up, causes personality problems. Like someone thinking the "ideal" self is the geniune self, making themselves all crazy because they confuse the reality of who they really are, with who they're trying to be, not fun stuff. All that aside, we our insecure creatures and therefor do a good job of doing our best to hide our geniune self from each other, and protraying an "ideal" self, which tends to be... distorded for that inperticular situation. The level of balance an individual has within themselves is a direct relationship to the difference between the "ideal" self and the geniune self. So its really why they say, when a person changes into after marrige is the real deal, and the dating person is an illision. Its a safty mechinism, a social survival method. And therefor is up to the indivdual to over-come it. Like that fact that were easily addicted to anything!

Answer 2

As Billy Joel wrote in his song "The Stranger", everyone wears a mask. We all have public, private & secret parts of our personalities.

When you reach love, or preferably a soulmate, they will understand your private & hopefully secret self. You won't need a name with your soulmate, they'll understand exactly who you are, deep inside. This status is usually reached after much dating.