Do all prents feel the same with their children?

Question

I'm not a mother (I'm 24) and I live with a 13yo girl (passed parents) who became my best friend as soon as we met each other.I know I will make suffer everyone who ever tries to hurt her (emotionally or physically).She is my best friend, we share everything, talk about everything, help and support each other, discuss problems.We have never yelled at each other and we've never 'punished' each-other (I know I'm supposed to punish her but if she decides to ignore me it would be the worst punishment for me) and we settle the rules together (she usually takes really good decisions).We snuggle (cuddle) any time.She is a lot more for me than a sister or a best friend. I can't explain it quite well but she is the best person I know,the best friend (support) I have and if anyone ever tries to hurt her, I will protect her or I'll revenge for her.Do all parents feel the same with their children? Or is your contact with them only yelling, criticizing and punishing?

Answer 1

Ur protective of this girl who has lost so much, losing her parents at such a young age is terrible. U've become a surrogate mother to this child, so yeah ur motherly instincts are on a high alert. The thing is u care for this child and parents who really care for their kids are protective and I know I wud be with my kids when i have them. I know it for sure coz i've looked after my pet Cat like he was a child to me so i can say it with surity. I also think that i'm possessive so maybe u too have the possessive quality...I dunno u'll have to analyse urself with other issues too.

Wat about ur personal life? BF's have u ever thot how u'd be taking care of this child when u start with ur own personal life. The thing is if u start to sideline the girl later on it wud put her into insecure mode or maybe when she grows up and looks out for her life u may feel the same...so try to be there for her and help her and protect her etc like a mother but be open to changes too.

Nope Parents relations with their kids need not be yelling criticizing or punishing it's not ethical. I'd rather say a parent shud be always there to guide a kid with a sane and stable mind, yelling and punishing never solve any problem as for criticizing it's not healthy to degrade ur child, never curbs anybodys thot process or hamper their confidence instead I'd say correct any of the childs flaws thru good measure of reasonable examples and try to make the child understand the consequences of wrong doing.

Parents who just yell and criticise end up with kids having low self esteem, punishing for the right reasons is absolutely valid but the level of punishments have to be in certain limit.

So if need be u can punish this girl but when u do try to make her understand the reason behind ur doing so. Screaming is not a alternative. Keeping ur mind stable is the key.

I'm happy that this child has u in the form of her parents it's not good to lose parents and live alone. Do take good care of this girl and God bless u :) take care.

Answer 2

i am sure you have an extremely rare and precious relationship w/ this girl and it is on the lines of "motherly" and you will share these times with your own children. I cuddle all my children and love them and we talk and share things as well. Children need guidelines and need to go through different stages to develop properly (have you ever taken a psych class?). It is ok to yell at a child as long as you are not criticizing or being hurtful. A 13 year old is not ready and should not be treated as a 24 year old. And by yelling I mean repremanding, not screaming til you are red faced. When you do have your own children maybe you will be able to take a bit of what you have w/ this girl into your parenting skills but children need parents, they have peers for friends.

Answer 3

Parenting comes with so many thingsnot just criticizing, punishing, and yelling. It has many of the samethings you have described however punishments ans discipline are sometimes needed notnecessarily with the yelling and should never be with criticism. However, at some points it can be taken that way.
A parent is there to nurture and love their children but also to guide them and teach them decision making skills so they can grow to be strong, independent, successful individuals.
And yes sometimes parents can go about doing this in harsh ways but it really depends ontheir own upbringing and the children they are raising.

Answer 4

im a single 24 year old mum of 2 year old twins and we have this unique bond, where sometimes we dont ask for a cuddle we just get one, i dont believe in punishment (yet) i let my children have make up thier own mind, and we dont yell, shout or hurt each other

Answer 5

Most parents love their children (or the ones that they live with). But then again there are always some parents who neglect their children. It truly sounds like your doing a good job.

Answer 6

kids need instruction and direction
they you to be there teacher in life
Because you're her mother. Mother is God in the eyes of a child.~ silent hill
people say u cant be both there best friend and parent because she is still a child and she needs to know right from wrong
and know morals etc

Answer 7

Yes, All parents feel the same way. This is the mammal jin which develops this attraction towards the offspring. But in your case, this is nothing but the involvement you had with

Answer 8

Kids need discipline. I can love them, talk to them, tuck them in at night, read to them, play with them, and spank them. It's all love my friend. You sound more like your in love with this little girl. You should be careful how you word your questions,because you sound a bit obsessed. Well anyways it's nice that she has someone like you who cares for her soo much.

Answer 9

do the authorities know this girl lives with you?

Answer 10

no