We both like one another alot, but it is very clear to me that she is still in love with her X. The interesting thing is that when she dated him she was still in love with her X before that. To make it more interesting they were all engaged. We are both 20. So it goes like this:
Timeline:
Countless previous BFs that were meaningless
X1 - Dumped him after 3 years
X2 - While Together still was in love with X1; in the end dumped after 1 year
X3 - Got over X1 but was now in love with X2; in the end she dumped him also after 8 months
ME!! Still in love with X3
I am not comfortable dating her because of it,but still have hope, am i crazy for wasting my time. What are some thoughts
2007-11-18 23:16:22 · 5 answers · asked by danimal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's a person who learns her feelings during the aftermath. If you are hopeful, don't be too clingy with her. Let her miss you or look for you sometimes. Give her the challenge of wanting you...
2007-11-18 23:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by j3ngla1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it heavily depends on how willing you are to take a sacrifice. you would know true love by how much sacrifice are you willing to undergo. with that kind of track record, im telling you, that's a dangerous relationship you're in, either because you are bound to be dumped (which indicates that she isn't ready, and in that case it would be right for her to dump you), or her previous boyfriends never really loved or understood her (which is better for you). In my opinion, the safest path that you can take is to go slow. Don't rush things, let things develop and mature. You will be the one if you manage to little by little show her that you are the one for her. It's not a matter of what the situation is (that she is still in love with X3), but rather what you can do to change it. It's a challenge. Can you stand up against her X's memories? If you are willing to venture into the unknown for the sake of love, then this is about changing the situation, not assessing it. "What can you do to eradicate the X's and not be an X yourself" is the question to ask, not "should I go on even if". That is if you have nothing to lose, or at least you won't regret losing what-not. But if your the thinking type who values his time, then this relationship may not be for you, as I said, with a track record like that, you have a high chance of repeating history. There are many fishes in the sea, as they say, but sometimes, there are fishes that could mean more to us than others. So if you're going to push through, don't mind her records, be the best that you can be, because there is no such thing as "I've wasted my love on you", because the person has an infinite capacity to love. Many just don't exercise it. It may hurt, but hey, bodybuilders get their bodies through the pains of training. But if you've decided to back out, then the same goes. There are many fishes in the sea. You're still young. One thing I've learned is never center your whole universe on a single person. This much I'm sure of.
2007-11-18 23:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by nj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In case one of the x's return his feelings, what's gonna happen to you? She's moving way too fast in the food chain, you know.
If she's still very much love with her x, you could be in danger, because the way I see it, no matter what happens, you'd lose. I mean, there, if one of the x's return her feelings, you know what happens to you. If they don't respond, did she really love you anyway for who you are? or did she see her x in you or something?
Good luck with her. And take good care of yourself as well.
2007-11-18 23:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by zack_falcon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it very slow!! She moves way too quickly in and out of relationships.
2007-11-18 23:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like trend to me. Break up with her and when she finds a new guy. she will be in love with you (X4). Well good luck!
2007-11-18 23:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Flipper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋