I'm pretty sure she's going to do it whatever I do, and I don't want to get in the way of her being happy, but she knows it will upset me and I think she's going to do it anyway. I feel like I can't trust her anymore because she encouraged him to break up with me earlier this year (we dated for three years very seriously) and was close to him while we were dating, and also she told me she wants to end up with her ex. I've told her that she should do it if she really wants to, what hurts me is that she would want to. How would you feel in this situation and how would you deal with it?
2007-11-18 22:23:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depending on how things ended between you and your first love, you'll always have a soft spot in your heart for him.
But keep in mind that you'll be loving the memories only. Because if it were so great, the two of you would still be together.
Now about that back-stabbing "friend" of yours. She's really no friend. Let her do what she has to do and you do what you have to do.
Whether she dates your ex or not, you need to kick her to the curb. Let them date. Like you said, there's really nothing you can do about them dating.
But you can do something about how you react to their dating. Just keep a cool head about it and move on with your life without either one of them in it.
That's the best way. And you'll be just fine in the end.
2007-11-18 22:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got over my first love. Though I'll treasure the many wonderful memories we shared. My friends and I have the rules and boundaries of not dating a friend's former or current BF. It's just our friendship code.
Some people end up dating their friends' former lovers and Exes which usually ends the friendships in more than 90% of the cases.
2007-11-18 22:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Muga Wa Kabbz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've delt with something similar... the bottom line is it sucks, and it hurts, and its upsetting and there is not much you can do about those emotions....
You just have to pull the focus back on to you, and concentrate on what you want to do with your life - excluding her. And then all it is after that is time....
You will get over it, just be patient and try to work though it in your own head, let yourself feel pain and sadness a little before you move on. Good Luck....
xxxx
2007-11-18 22:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not consider her a friend if she did that to me. It was not that long ago, I told both my ex and an ex friend how I felt when I saw them together. The best part was that her husband had asked me out numerous times, and I refused out of respect for her!!!
2007-11-18 22:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did. it took me a few months to bear seeing them together. it's going to be hard because he's your first love. but sweetheart, he won't be your last. since she's your best friend, she should have respected you enough to not pursue him because of how close you were to him. but girls will be girls. don't let this get you down, go out and date. you'll meet someone better and he may turn out to have some of the same qualities as your ex..
good luck
2007-11-18 23:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn i'd be pissed. if it was someone else, that's fine.. but by your best friend? that's just messed up.. and does she know that he's your first love? she shouldn't be doing that.. she should respect you and back off him..
i understand your loss of trust for herll
2007-11-18 22:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by Margie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had d same problem exactly 1 year back..now its better..but i have yet not forgotten her..3-4 gals asked me out..bt i refused....u really need hepl....my only advice is--give her enough space, enough time to decide and act very normal....its all opposite to wat i did..bt i think this can help!!!
gud luck
2007-11-18 22:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by Deepak Ahuja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋