what will u do?

Question

what will u do if some one told u that he loves u but u dont love him and u dont want to heart him and u want to still friends??!!!!

Answer 1

some guys will say anything to get into the girls pants, thats just the arrogance of youth, and must admit to stretching the words a bit back then, but after i was intimate with them, i was willing and able to marry every single one, so i guess in a way this speaks in the males defense, he doesn't actually know his complete emotional side, until he has the physical part (and this is not some performance issue). But the woman first needs the emotional attachment, only then (and with his affectionate foreplay) can she can open up (what is basically the inside of her body) to a male who just pokes and prods (I'm not trying to be graphic or dirty here) but frankly and honestly with all due respect, its simply the nature of which container half of species your realization of existence experience landed into. This is why it is only logical, to believe, that 90% of break ups, are the males fault, the natural child bearing "nurturing aspects of the female, dictates the role of a man who keeps his woman, at the top of his priority list,..can only gain from the bouintiful sweetness a woman is capable of, when she feels secure in his intentions. Furthermore a woman has every right to consider a mans ability to "hunt and gather" and shouldn't flippantly be regarded as "gold digger". As much as a man will eventually see a valid "sneaky greed" aspect in a woman, so also can the irresponsible "playboy" type guy be revealed to her. The guy who might stop off at a bar and have one beer, and then after unwinding, picks her a (once or twice a week) rose, on the way home...never stumbles in, talking about a hockey game, while cold anniversary dinner, shadowed behind, the last two flicklers of a candles light. No doubt the quit drinking or lose the family ultimatum is soon to follow, and its is HIS fault. All he has to do is be there with sweet words,... constant and consistent,.. for her, and will reap multitudes of rewards. Unfortunatly, these high sincerity ratings, become overshadowed by, the new discoveries of sexuality, and adult liberty. If you truely want these qualities, you will either have to, wait until you have the discernment level, to know if a guy will marry/commit..... or just selfishly poke around. If he is putting all kinds of pressure on you, and doesnt see the responsibility side of the commitment..tell him to take a hike...its the woman who will subsequently, take most of the burden, especially if feeling unloved, provokes pregnancy, as a false fortification hope..... which is due to happen, with enough unprotected "lust break time". When a real man, courts you proper, you will know...but until then, why settle out of fear of being alone...that shouldn't be an issue till your over 35, you are nubile and cute at the young adult age...of coarse guys are going to try and get in, without really knowing the pain they can also inflict upon themselves, after getting cut off from that honeypot.

Answer 2

Be honest and fast. You'll only hurt him worse if he doesn't know the truth and soon. Explain that you are flattered that he feels so strongly for you, but love is not something you can fake or find easily and he deserves someone that will love him back as well. Tell him that it's not his fault, you two just don't have mutual chemistry.Don't forget tell him that your friendship means alot and you don't want to lose it or make him feel weird.Help him find someone that is good for him. Good luck and tell him soon. Like a band aid- just rip it off and get it over with so he can go on.

Answer 3

When someone asks a question like that, I'm assuming they want an example of something to say, not just a lecture on the right and wrong thing to do. So here's what I would say, "I'm flattered that you feel that way about me, but I'm not sure that I'm ready to take that step with you. And the last thing I want is for this to disrupt our friendship because I care about you."

And if he asked, "when will you be ready" or something to that measure. Just say "only time will tell" or some 'who knows' answer.

Answer 4

In my opinion, you should be honest with him, but do not be too sharp with your words- don't say things like "F*** Y**, I don't like you at all." Maybe something like "I know you like me and I'm honoured, however I think I am not prepared for a relationship. Shall we continue to be friends?"

Something that will allow the other party to be able to step back not too embarressed. Then, you and him can still be good friends.

I hope this has helped you and you will still be friends with that guy! (Let me know if it works out X))

Answer 5

Unfortunatly there is no way not to hurt him, you have to tell him the truth. Thw worst thing you could possibly do would be to tell him you love him too... it will only hurt him more in the long run.

Answer 6

Tell him that you love him as a friend. Tell him that you love him but are not "in love with him"

Answer 7

one who loves u .you should answer him by love. Dont ignore anyone.he will prove a real helper 4 u in future

Answer 8

Tell him love is Maya i.e. illusion.

Quote Shakespeare: All the world's a stage and we are it's actors!

Answer 9

tricky, BUT, just be honest wif him. He will be hurt no matter wot you say but u hav to do this for his sake. being mates after mite not happen straight away, that could take time if at all. don't drag it out, get straight into it for both your sakes, good luk. x

Answer 10

Life is short, you know what decision to make, tell him you do not love him and if he do not want to be friends.....then he must beat it.