Today I went out and I went to the bookstore in Borders... As I was going down the escalator, he was going up and waved and said "hello" to me and I said "hey" back, and I couldn't really continue seeing I was going down and he was going up. And then later on weirdly, I met him again for the second time. That never happened before and I didn't notice till he yelled at me because he was in the car, and then he smiled at me and I smiled back. What kind of fool is he? After that he just left. He could have continued the conversation. If he wasn't interested, then he shouldn't have done any of those things at all. What is the point? Why can't guys approach me? Why do they always give chances to other girls that are gonna break their heart and then groan saying nice guys finish last? It pisses me off! What else am I supposed to do? Finally a decent guy who I was attracted to bravely made a contact... and we even met twice on the same day... and he didn't ask me out...
2007-11-18 20:00:47 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seriously, this always happens. Guys outside show they like me, like stare a lot/smile and sometimes compliment, but I usually ignored, but lately I signalled back... I don't really know what to do anymore.
2007-11-18 20:00:54 · update #1
The good news is: You are attractive to men. They notice you and make contact.
The bad news is: Lots of men flirt and that's as far as they go. (Me for one--my wife doesn't even like the flirting.) They may already be attached or may simply want to make you feel attractive. Or they may be too shy to make the next move.
Borders is a good place to meet the better quality men, but so is a good library. If this man is one who is available and if you are both interested chances are your paths will cross again. Connecting will be something of a challenge for both of you, but there are ways to do it.
For example you could try to get an idea what part of the store (which topics) interest him and see if you have a common interest. That could lead to a conversation starter.
If you want to meet nice men starting a good conversation is a great way to start things off. Even if you just talk about the weather.
It sounds to me like you are a very nice person who would be well worth knowing, and you need and deserve a quality relationship with a quality guy. Take your time. Be patient. Expect a few passes from guys who may not be quite as available as you are--that goes with the territory. By the way, that isn't all that bad. Conversation is cheap. I may flirt, and I may have a nice conversation, but I'm not a cheater. And I would have a conversation with you if I could (sort of like we are doing right now.)
You want the right guy--one who is as nice as you are and one who will treat you right. It's worth being patient. It's also nice to date without getting too serious or going too far. You learn good things about relationships this way without getting hurt.
Good things will come your way. I'm sure of it. Just be a little more patient. And, don't be afraid to approach this guy if you cross paths again. He may be too shy to take the next step, and that would be one of the nicest things that could happen to you--him needing a sign from you that you're interested.
2007-11-18 20:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you wait for them to make a move?
You can make the move too... go and ask them out.
(I saw this in one of the answers, the girl who answered a simillar ques said that it did help her tremendously... at least she never has to wait for someone else to make a move.)
... and I say whats bad in it guys ???
WHY NOT DO IT... GIRL ???
Go ahead... give it a shot. It is worth it.
2007-11-19 04:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by Ronney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait and watch.
2007-11-19 04:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by Good Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋