A work acquaintance is getting married next June and is very excited that she has been able to plan the entire event herself. She has decided to have some of the following at her wedding reception:
Red Hots, Fiery Buffalo Nuts, tuna casserole, and gallon jugs of water on every table, with foil wedding stickers on the jugs. Oh, and Tic-Tac breath mints.
Brides: Do we shut up or speak up? Several of us have offered to help with the food and she has turned us down, citing she wishes to do everything on her own.
2007-11-18 19:41:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There are times when you simply smile and eat before you go to the wedding!
2007-11-18 19:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to do it on her own, then she's the one that will have to pay the consequences if people think it's tacky. She's the one that will hear all the remarks and it's a day she will NEVER forget. Maybe it will be a good lesson for her to at least listen to other people's advice and then make the best decision. She may learn the hard way, but she'll learn good! My niece and nephew wanted to do all their own stuff and the worst thing that everyone talked about which they thought was very unusual and tacky was displaying the groom's deceased baby's picture (from a previous relationship) at the front of the alter and also at the head table. He said the baby was an angel watching over them and blessing their wedding, but everyone said that they should remember that as a "Happy" day and not a day of mourning. So I say "to each his own". In my opinion, he strongly believed that it was a "good thinig" no matter what people said, he said he had no regrets that he used his own judgement and their wedding turned out to be a beautiful day after all!.
2007-11-19 03:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything to her. Be grateful that she asked you to come. Enjoy the day with her and her new husband. There is just too much hype these days with brides trying to have the "perfect" wedding. Let her do it all herself and be happy for her. It's not about looks and it's not about who has the best food or wedding favors. It's about a marriage. A lot of people seem to have forgotten that. Too many people put a lot more time into their wedding and almost no time into planning their marriage. A wedding is about the marriage! How sad is it that we have forgotten this? Too many people place importance on how expensive the wedding is. You can have a bride and groom who have a rich wedding, rich in love and happiness, and who go to the courthouse. Leave her alone with the foods she's chosen. It's not about the food and it's not about the amount of stuff. It's about a marriage starting and two people promising before their family, friends, God and each other that they will honor, love and cherish each other for the rest of their days. Nothing is more beautiful than that.
2007-11-19 08:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by Rockit 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not exactly sure what fiery buffalo nuts are and I shudder to venture a guess. But I think the important thing to keep in mind is in the end, it is ultimately the bride and groom's day. Weddings have become such a competition about who's willing to spend more money on silly luxuries no one will remember, commercialized pomp and circumstance masquerading as rites of passage, and it's all subterfuge that often times buries what the day should really be about, which is a celebration of the two individuals choosing to spend their lives together. For better or worse, for buffalo nuts or tic-tacs, if this bride is about being a do-it-yourself dynamo, sometimes the best gift is to be a good friend and celebrate their independent spirit and be joyful for the fact that two people in love have pledged themselves to one another.
2007-11-19 03:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by denise25 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I know one wedding where the bride insisted of doing everything however it turned out to be slightly the opposite of what she was expecting to happen.In the case of your coworker, that is their wedding so she has the right to do whatever she wants.However, being concerned firends/co-worker, I advice you to ask her the details and listen intently because I'm sure she would realize she needs you on that very same event and when that time comes it would be best to be prepared. At least by listening to her plans (without any objections) you will know what she wants to do when she would be asking u to take charge.When she figured out that you had done what she had always wanted she'll be most thankful to u.
2007-11-19 03:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by zhei_m 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, denise25... it's rare to see a good writer here on Yahoo! Answers. I am just as delighted by some of your sentences as I am by those of George Eliot or Henry James. That's quite a feat when you've taken as your subject but a lowly bowl of buffalo nuts.
NC Mom -- I wholeheartedly agree with Denise!
2007-11-19 04:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Emmy Jo (13 weeks with #2) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE tell this lady she is making a big mistake!
A wedding reception is a reflection of the Bride and Groom's hosting abilities, personal tastes, and lifestyle . . and oh boy, is this couple in trouble!
It's rather obvious this couple has little or no budget. For the same amount of time and effort she could have a simple menu that is more pleasing and accomodating to her guests. If nothing else, she could just serve wedding cake and punch.
What she is trying to do is have "a wedding reception" for the least amount of money she can so her wedding guests will bring her "lots of money and gifts." In her mind, as long as she "does something" people will bring her "lots of wedding presents." Plus she wants the "bragging rights" of "doing it herself" (and you will hear about it over and over again).
Please pass along this true story to this lady . . Another Bride and Groom told their wedding guests that their wedding reception was going to be "a big deal" so their guests would bring them "lots of big, expensive gifts." Their "big deal" turned out to be cheese and crakers, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, ham salad sanwiches, tuna salad sandwiches, canned fruit cocktail, warm sodas, and store bought cookies. And when many of the guests saw what food was offered, they walked back to the gift table, picked up their gift and walked out the door!
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A wedding ceremony officiant
2007-11-19 07:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
So she doesn't want to have an elegant dinner. Who cares! If she is happy with her wedding that's all that matters! Also, if you g to her and raise concerns you will only hurt her. If she is as proud as you say about planning this on her own who are you to take that away?
p.s I would die of laughter if you showed up o the most elegant wedding of the year! Maybe shes just screwing with you guys!
2007-11-19 04:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Brides: Do we shut up or speak up? Speak up about what? Your not the bride in this wedding, you should let her have the wedding she wants, not the one you think she should have, mind your own business and keep your pie hole shut, go to the wedding and have some fun.
2007-11-19 03:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by All Knowing 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Shut up. It's her wedding. It's one day. It's not going to kill anyone. Some people may chuckle or turn up their noses, but she and her husband will be happy. That's ultimately all that matters.
2007-11-19 03:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋