I was dating this guy for 4 years he did a lot of bad things to me but i thought i was so much in love with him. I finally met a guy who I been with for a year that i love very much we have a problems but he never put me threw as much as my ex did. even though he did hurt me I do still love him i don't wanna turn my back on him now when he needs me the most but I don't like him in that way but it might start drama i don't know if something bad was to happen to him I wouldnt want to leave off on bad terms should I be his friend even though he wants more are should i let it go?
2007-11-18 19:12:34 · 15 answers · asked by Barbie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No!!! take it from an experienced 48 year old woman, with a 28 year old daughter. You should not be "friends" with your ex!...he's not proving himself to be your friend now!...if you're happy in the relationship that you are currently in, and your ex knows this...then why is he stressing you to come back to him?...If he was really (your) friend at all, and since he didn't treat you well when you and he were together, he'd be happy that you're happier in the relationship that you're in now, and he wouldn't want to start any drama in your life now. Seems to me that he's selfish and is only looking out for himself!!...if he just wanted to be "friends", why can't he also be friends with your new partner?! I think you'd be making a mistake trying to be friends with your ex...he doesn't just really want to be friends, he wants what he's thrown away...which is what he had with you. Run from him...he means you no good...an if you do fall back into his trap and dump the guy you're with now to get back with your ex, your ex will most likely end up treating you worse than he did when you were with him the first time...cause he'll take you for a fool....an he'll have no respect for you...especially if you leave the guy you're with now for him. The exes ego will blow up bigger than ever and then he'll figure that he can treat you like dirt....because in his mind, he'll feel that that's what you are. My advice is for you to tell your ex that being friends with him is going to cause you problems in your now relationship, and let the ex find a new "friend"!!....the ex may be mad at first, but at least he'll respect that fact that you aren't his little fool, and that he can pull you back in like a puppet whenever the whim hits him!!
2007-11-18 19:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by Marie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 18:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can move past the bad thing there no reason you guys can't be friends. Tell your ex that its only going to be friends so he doesn't want more and make sure OK with your man. If something happens just end the friendship.
2007-11-18 19:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by mica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from reading through your profile i found out you are 19 (bones popping question) and well though i am only 3 years older than you, I know this:
we are young and am sure most people younger and older than us have not experienced TRUE LOVE.
what we have experienced is a deep appreciation for the person that is often mistaken for love.
he may have been the first person who treated you rigth at first, had money, was someone you could depend on, but at a level 1 stage not that lifetime level I believe is rare to achieve, barbie.
I believe it is okay to be friends with your ex, but keep your distance, you've got a better man, according to what you say.
if he makes you made try not retailiate with mean things or things like that, kindly tell him you, quite frankly dont have time to argue, etc.
support him but concentrate on your new boo and if you happen to become single, who knows in that time you will have grown more, and well who knows you may actually work things out with your ex and actually be the one for each other,
I am only saying thsi because teh description you gave sounds like my ex.
2007-11-18 19:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by Siren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im divorced and best friends with my ex husband...He did hurtful things too but Thats why were not together. But now we are friends and thats why you should be because hating someone you used to love only makes you feel bad so dont
2007-11-18 19:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your relationship is on good tems with the person u are with know, you might want to ask your man what to do he might not even like the idea of u two talkn then that would jepordize your relationship with him. It's always good to help someone in need but is it really worth it? And if oyur mans cool with it then the better for u.
2007-11-18 19:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by SACSFINEST 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the ex stay in the past. When an ex-BF approaches you saying that he wants to be your friend it usually means that he wants to be your "friend" with benefits and have no strings attached s*x with you.
2007-11-18 19:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Muga Wa Kabbz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is a long time I think he should be a distance friend like the friends you use when you have NO ONE else to talk to or borrow money from. lol.But I wouldnt keep him as one of my CLOSE personal friends.
2007-11-18 19:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it wont hurt...just friends tho..wait a while until you know that you all can have a friendship it took me and my X about 10 years after the fact but we are great friends now
2007-11-18 19:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by ღOMGღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, why not? after all..you've been together for 4 years..maybe, destiny charted you to be friends..not lovers...anyway, just keep him from a distance...i mean, not that close..that would be a start..if it would not work..well, you could always drift away from him..
2007-11-18 19:36:28 · answer #10 · answered by Lennex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋