i am involved in a long distance relationship, we communicate everyday but this past friday when she got off work she called me and stated she was out of town camping with his coworkers ( 3 couples plus her) she stated she had to go along and wish i was there coz she has been feeling very lonely. now the question is
1. as much as i want to trust her, i can't imagine she didnt have a male companion just like her friends? how could she be a sleep in a tent when all the other couples were cuddling and probably making out?
2. why did she choose to tell me at the last minute yet we communicate everyday?
3. if indeed she is hidding something, why did she choose to tell me at all?
She is supposed to be visiting me for christmass and i am afraid the more i grill her the less likelyhood i will see her. any advice please!!!!!
2007-11-18 18:26:23 · 12 answers · asked by jophat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, youu should trust her.
has she ever cheated before?
my boyfriend still doesnt fully trust me and we've been together 2 years. (even tho he's cheated w/ two different ppl, and i've been faithful all along? ha i dont get it either)
anyways.
don't not trust her unless she gives you a reason.
and talk to her.
tell her that you don't feel comforatable with it, because she chose to tell you last min. and it wasnt just a small thing to you.
tell her that you trust her, but its hard to not be around, and itd be nice if she'd help make it a lil' easier for you.
dont try to set down a lot of rules... like where she can and cant go, or who with.
just try to explain it to her, and do her the same favor. you're not the only one that lives far away from they're love. she has to do it too.
:)))
2007-11-18 18:34:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's tough to make a long distance relationship work. I for one think they are pointless, but thats just my openion. She could have prolonged her telling you of this because maybe she was scared you would suspect something. Tell her how you feel about her going and get a reassurance that shes honest. Dont grill her about it. Just let it be. Trust her as much as possible, but if things come up and she tells you or you find out, let her know how you feel about it and consider ending the relationship.
2007-11-18 18:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't make out when there are other people in the same room unless they are planning to swing.
To be honest, i think your girl is ok. Sometimes people thinks that their other half is always cheating on them but this is sometimes really not the case.
Trust is a very important factor in a relationship. She has also the rights not to tell you anything but she chose to tell you that she is with her friends so i don't think she is trying to hide anything.
Keep trusting her... if she is really cheating you, the truth will surface sooner or later.
2007-11-18 18:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't jump the gun too fast. If she waited last minute to decide to go, it's possible that she was just trying to decide if it was worth it to go, being the odd girl out, and possibly have a fun weekend, or stay home and possibly do nothing at all. When I was single, I would make last minute decisions like that all the time.
If she hasn't given you any reason not to trust her, then trust her. Your relationship may thank you for it later.
2007-11-18 18:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by nellyemh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only read the long distance part and stopped. Long distance relationships are hard because he can never REALLY know what the other person is up to. Also you can't touch them or kiss them. So just based upon "Long Distance Relationship" he's taking you for a ride. Some of them work out but rarely.
2007-11-18 18:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by Just Curious 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude, i think she try to be honest with you. if she doest tell you will never know any way. telling you the last second doest meant she try to do you lie. there is planty thing to consider beetwen she did want to go and how you would feel.
being jealous are good thats mean you want to keep her. but being suspicious? that your own lost man. you the one who cannot sleep lol. my advise.. stop thinking that way. it just makes your heart burn. why dont you try to give her your trust? and thats mean she has responsibility on you, and you do the same to her. makes healthy relationship that based on trust and truth.
2007-11-18 19:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Tokichiro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She told you
She may have been asked at the last minute
Who the heck makes out while camping
How do you know they are in tents - my wife thinks she's camping if its not here own bed
Chill out
2007-11-18 18:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. There needs to be much more evidence than that to assume that someone is cheating. If she is, eventually the facts will reveal themselves to you. It will be plainer than a minor suspicion.
2007-11-18 18:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very suspicious to me. Long distance relationships never work anyway, don't waste your time.
2007-11-18 18:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is a working woman and good on her, i dont think that there is any need to worry she sounds like a lovely person who wishes to make a go of her career keep pressuring her and you will loose her..... your choice..
2007-11-18 18:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋