help me from having my repuatation (or whats left of it) destroyed?

Question

I swear this is the last time im asking about this on yahoo answers because everytime i do i screw up again

Ok several months ago i drunkenly made out with a girl who would normally be way out of my league. Next night she was Sober I was not but I didnt realize it. In my drunken brilliance I for some reason asked "do I have a chance with you"? That pretty much ended things and although I apologized I have felt extremely awkward since about it. A few nights ago I was rncouraged by her to go to a costume party and after stating I had no costume she encouraged me to make something up and I later heard her say to her friends(she did not realize I was nearby) that "they'll still probably let him in without a costume right?" Foolishly I got smashed that night and I proceded to message her that I wanted to talk about the original incident. Next morning i relaized bad idea and deleted it but she saw it anyway and I said it was supposed to go to someone else about another issue. now wht

Yes I know I have a bad relationship with alcohol so dont tell me that

oh and the next time i saw her i was with girl who i said the note was for (message was supposed to be school related) and I get this very angry look from message girl? Since then ive avoided her except for one sort of wary glance from 60 feet away. How do i fix this?

Answer 1

First of all you need to get your life back on track...any girl who's worth it is not going to take you seriously when every time they're around you you're drunk or stoned. Most intelligent women don't want to waste their time with someone who is acting stupid or don't know what they're saying half the time and they definitely don't want a serious relationship with any guy who is going to lie to them. If you want to attract the right kind of women be the right kind of guy. I don't know if you've totally blown it completely forever with this girl; but, straighten out your life and your actions and your priorities and that should show her or any other woman you are worth a second look.

Answer 2

I feel that this girl you are keen on really fancies you and I suppose it is O.K. to tell little white lies here and there. Maybe she was a bit embarrassed herself for getting drunk and let things maybe go too far. I am even wondering whether you both could be a bad influence on each other if you are both inclined to "get smashed". It might be an idea to ask her out for dinner or maybe even somewhere you could both go that doesn't include drinking and then see how you get on together when you are both sober. If you think you do have a problem with alcohol maybe try and get advice on how to tone it down as it could get in the way of satisfactory long-term relationships. Like if you can't have a few drinks and a good time without getting plastered every time then yes you do have an addiction and maybe talk to a professional about it. You do need to let her know you want to spend more time with her.

Answer 3

I don't think you can. I think you should just leave her alone for a bit until things cool down. And I know you don't want to hear it, but every stupid thing you've done was while drunk. You really should get help.

Answer 4

Try the truth, and accept the consequences. If you have a problem with alcohol, you should probably quit it.

Answer 5

Youre just one of people who makes a fool out of themselves when they drink. Sad but true.