I love him. But he said he loves me only as a good friend. I am very heart-broken. What made it even worse was when he said that it won't go beyond this ever.
Is it ever possible that he might feel differently down the line, if we continue to be just good friends?
Please answer honestly guys and please let me know if there is still a glimmer of hope here, or zero chance?
2007-11-18 15:47:23 · 29 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you tonz for all your responses guys...but I do want to mention that he sincerely wants to be great friends as he has always been from his side, but is having thoughts whether I can take it without getting my hopes raised.
2007-11-18 16:38:35 · update #1
It depends on the person. What I'm pretty sure of, though, is that men are more likely to fall in love with a friend of the opposite gender over a long period of friendship than are women.
So yes, there is hope. However, I recommend not investing more emotions into your friend than you already have, or your heartbreak may get worse for you.
As the above answerers said, his feelings for you won't change very soon. Take care.
2007-11-18 15:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but I can tell you there is no hope. A guy who says just friends is not ever kidding around. Especially if he said it wont go beyond this, ever. I would take him at his word and move on. You will be happier when you can start thinking about another guy and realize it so much more worth caring for someone when it is requited. Also, if you are dating other people and there was any chance there, it would probably cause him to reconsider and realize what he is missing, in which case you can decide if he is worth it. Either way, moving on will be best.
2007-11-18 15:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by aes 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely there's still hope. He's not going to be able to know now how he'll feel about you in the future.
He could also be using this as an excuse to avoid a relationship (i.e.- he's afraid of getting hurt, or something).
Just stay great friends with him. Concentrate on that for now, and hopefully things will become more in the near future.
A couple years ago, my then-boyfriend and I went through a bad time where he told me we would never be able to be together again (we were going through some issues at that time). When he said that, I truly believed he meant it, and I think he did too.
Now, 2 years later- we're engaged and have never been happier. =)
2007-11-18 15:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Brittany 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 12:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No chance at all. hes trying to be nice to you so hes letting you know this way.
There might be a possibility LATER down the line, but as of now when a guy says only as a friend and ...beyond this ever...
he stalking about a good 2-3 years
2007-11-18 15:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Guys are not complicated and there is no mystery or hidden code. When a man says he only wants to be friends with you, that's exactly what he means. I know it hurts but you need to move on and find a man who wants you for the beautiful and confident woman you are. Don't pressure this guy or you will lose him as a friend as well. Sometimes having a man as a friend is better. Good luck! :)
2007-11-18 15:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well obviously this guy is not good enough for u !!! there must be reason why sometimes we dont get whatever we want.this is because God wants to give the best for us.I am sure if u wait a while there is a man for u out there that u do not know.nothing is wrong if u stay as friend with him.friendship is precious but love can kill u.
2007-11-18 15:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by sheri 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Seems to be he loves you, but not in love with you. Me being a guy and a guy telling a girl this, its time to accept the hard fact he only wants to be friends. You can hope, but hope is a dangerous thing - shawshank redemption.
2007-11-18 15:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by the_greatone 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is probably no hope. He cares because I guess he didn't try to sleep with you then tell you that.
If I were you, I would date other guys. It would help you get over him and it might make him realize what he'll be missing. I wouldn't suggest hooking up with someone just to make him jealous, but do ti because you deserve to be with someone who cares and loves you back.
2007-11-18 15:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by mmatthews000 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think if he is saying it would be good to just be friends, then it is not going anywhere, but sometimes being just friends can sometimes turn out in your favorite. What I mean, being best of friends is where it all starts sometimes. So , what I would do is just be a good friend to him.
2007-11-18 15:53:27 · answer #10 · answered by Dawn M 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋