My problem is that my fiancee wants to get married in a Pentecostal church who won't accept me because I wasn't baptized in the name of Jesus but rather in the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit. Therefore, they want me to get baptized in the name of Jesus. I feel that if I do, then I am putting my belief and God under this marriage which is not something I want to do. I don't want God to be second. I have until Saturday to figure out what i am doing and I have no idea just as yet.
2007-11-18 15:36:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I can feel for you. You obviously love this woman, but, what they are asking of you is no small thing. It would be a denial of your one baptism, which is fully Biblical. Mt 28:19 "Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing in the name of the Father and of the Som and of the Holy Spirit.." This is a command of Jesus. If this is what you believe, how can you deny it?
2007-11-18 15:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you were baptized in the name of the father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, do you mean to say that you were not baptized in the name of Jesus? Is Jesus, not the Son.?
Pentecostal church is a false religion with false pastor, however, are you marrying the false church. It is not your fiancee to be married with you but not the religion?Do you love each other very much? Can both of you managed to sacrifice the false religion because of true love? If your fiancee really love you, won't she allow you to be married in civil marriage?Think wise "amigo".
2007-11-18 15:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jesus M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhhhhh boy what a conflict you have here..... I am so sorry to hear that this is happening..... I for one do NOT believe baptism has a thing to do with FAITH or being saved.... Paul says we are baptized NOT with water but by the Holy Spirit..... I am NOT knocking any ones beliefs, but water baptism is Old Testament, it was the way the priest washed for their duties...... *sigh*, and is WHY Jesus was baptized.... it was all a part of getting prepared for the Priest Hood for the Chosen People and the Kingdom....... *Sigh*..... Pray about it and talk with a person you trust..... I hope in Jesus you can work all this out..... go in peace...... God bless
2007-11-18 15:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've already decided to marry someone who doesn't agree with your beliefs about God. And now you're upset because your fiancee's church wants you to formalize this decision that you've already made? That doesn't make sense.
You either need to compromise on your belief in God or realize that this is just the first in what is sure to be a long list of conflicts that the two of you are going to have over the years. You'd be much better off marrying someone who believes the way you do instead of marrying someone who is cute and makes you feel all tingly inside.
2007-11-18 15:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by Craig R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
matthew 28:18-20 Then Jesus came to them and said, "All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age."
Jesus himself said to be baptized in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit not "in the name of Jesus". show them this passage and ask why they don't obey this scripture. and here is one that describes an event...
Acts 8:16
"because the Holy Spirit had not yet come upon any of them; they had simply been baptized into the name of the Lord Jesus."
you see that they weren't baptized "in the" name of Jesus, but were baptized "into" the name. so they have their doctrine off and that is a very dangerous thing. if that is off...how many of them are truly saved? be careful in whom you rest your salvation. let it be the Word of God only and those who truly live according to every word that comes from the mouth of God.
2007-11-18 16:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by GARY R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you been confirmed? Explain to them that is how those of us who have been baptized in the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit accept Jesus into our lives. I personally would not get baptized. I refuse to let someone tell me my denomination, baptism and faith in Christ is not good enough. Trying discussing with your fiancee and the minister doing a joint wedding so that you would have two ministers so the Pentecostal minister could do a prayer and the other minister could officiate. I know my mom (a United Church minister) has done this several times with Catholics who have also had baptism/ confirmation disputes.
2007-11-18 15:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by lillou_2 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your fiance cares about you he won't make you go against your conscience. If he's really pushing for this, I'd reevaluate your relationship. It doesn't seem healthy for a lifetime mate to push you to do something that in your heart is wrong.
Is your fiance seriously against any other arrangement for the wedding? This is just odd because usually it's the girl who makes all the wedding arrangements. If he won't budge, I would seriously consider if the marriage is right. You'll be living with this guy who wants you to disobey what your conscience is telling you.
2007-11-18 15:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by Cleoppa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that Jesus is number one in your life and you see your baptism as affirmation of that no matter what they said at the time you were baptised. Also say what you said here, that you don't want it to seem to you like God comes after your marriage
2007-11-18 15:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by Evieve 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think God is going to care which brand of Christian you are? (He already answered that in the Gospels.)
If your belief system is not compatable with your spouses' then you have to make allowances for it or it will be a real source of frustration for the life of the marriage.
Why are you imposing time limits on your decision? this is the one decision that you can't afford to screw up. if it takes longer to reach the proper decision, then take your time.
anybody who gives you lip about taking more time before putting the ring on is a moron who shouldn't be listened to.
2007-11-18 15:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by joe f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Y'all are off to a bad start. You have to resolve this and any other deep philosophical differences BEFORE you get married if you want to have any chance at a happy and long marriage.
2007-11-18 15:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by harvardbeans 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋