Men Only...........This is not a question to bash men, it's truly an honest question?

Question

Does a woman have to go to hell in back in order for you to know you love her? I am single, and I do want to be in a relationship, but I don't want drama. I have a two girlfriends who have been through so much with their men from braking up to making up, to each of them being with someone else. He admits he knows what it takes to make the relationship work, but will come around to doing it in his own time because no matter how long it takes he wants to be able to say “I did it“, and not she made me do it. These men would go from saying they love them unconditionally, but would often wonder if he wants to be with them at all if he had not put conditions on the love first, then the women would do the same thing as a defense mechanism. You go from having really amazing days/moments with him, but some days you wish you never met him, then one day he decides you are the love of his life, and ask you to marry him.

Since this has happen to two of my friends over the age of 30, and I am just in late 20’s, my question is, do you really have to go through all of this to eventually get a man to love you, and ask you to marry him? Both of my girlfriends said yes because no man is perfect, and while understanding that because neither are women, do you have to go through all this? I want someone who I can love, and go through things with, simply because we are two different people with two different view points, and we are trying to compromise as one. Last, I understand things are going to happen that you can not control, but I still don’t think it would be on the scale that I just described because you can control those things. I am starting to believe my girlfriends because I have 6 really close friends, and only one has never experienced this, and she is a different race.

Answer 1

Not all men act the way you described.I know this is hard to believe but it is true.Not all men are high maintenance.Some of us are capable of the type of love that women need. Did you ever notice as a relationship gets older things change?What happens?I could probably write a book.The best thing to do is give your relationship some time.Ever hear the old saying Time will tell?Thats what dating is all about.Get to know them see what their personality is really like.If you dont like something now chances are they will never change.(shoes dont stretch)If the right man comes along you will know.He will always let you know he loves you.and his actions will show it.

Answer 2

You need to find Mr. Right! Here are some suggestions.

Park - Take your pet for a walk! You're already both interested in pets. Strike up a conversation with a guy. I know it may be hard. Sometimes, the best conversations start off with, "Don't you hate that ______?"

Specialized Class - You know how they have specialized classes scattered around your city. Maybe it's a photography class or a web design class? You'd already have something in common with the person and you'd be stuck with a group of guys for a certain amount of time each day! You can talk about the subject you're studying or your lives, etc.

Church! A church gathering such as a supper, etc. You want the guy to have the same beliefs as you, correct? Well, I know most people don't date people that go to their church, but that may be a good starting place. If you don't go to church, join one [if you believe in God.]

Get involved in your community! Do mission work. Participate in community gatherings and meetings.

One thing is for SURE. You're not going to find Mr. Right at a bar or any place like that.

& sometimes, the woman has to make the first move. You might miss Mr. Right because he's not had enough relationship experience and THEREFORE, will not ask you out. He may not think he's good enough for you. You may not think you're good enough for you. To fall in love, you've got to take a chance!

hope this helps. :)

Answer 3

i really not sure what you are asking --- i think a guy has to mature and sometimes it can take a long time and to lose someone close before we do grow up --- i have come to the conclusion that we have to give more rather than taking --- ladies are very good at giving not as good at taking ---- we expect everything and dont give back a lot --- generally we do get better as we get older and no i dont put conditions on what i want --- or rather all i want is for my lady to be happy and if she is happier without me then so be it ----- best wishes

Answer 4

It depends on you and the guy in question. I dated my wife for about a year and we never had a fight. We got married and stayed married for 22 years. She divorced me because I would not do the world's will (lie steal cheat) but wanted to live a life where I was doing God's will. I still am doing God's will.

Answer 5

for most people its to keep things interesting.
I don't like that drama either