I'm 24 and I have had many abusive relationships. I feel that I am prone to these relationships because I am so desperate for affection and I will do almost anything to get it. I want to be completely free from my need for affection. Is there any kind of herbal remedy, or some other kind of answer? Please help.
2007-11-18 15:21:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don't think you need to overcome your need for affection. If you are attracting the wrong men because of it just redirect your need for affection what I mean by that is give affection to those who are in need of attention and affection like volunteer at a homeless shelter or a animal shelter or a nursing home these are people and animals that would cherish your affection and give back more then you could handle. :-)
2007-11-18 16:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by mdjgirl7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that a person who some how over comes their need for affection would become a person who you wouldn't like very much. It would be better to find out why you have such a need for affection that you're willing to jump into just any relationship just to get it. Going into therapy will also help you to understand why you do it and how to learn how to temper the need for affection or at least learn how to deal with the need so that you don't keep making the same mistake. A person who totally cuts themselves off from affection ends up a lonely and depressed person. I don't think that that's the way that you want to end up.
2007-11-18 23:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kathryn R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs affection. You just need to learn how to seek it in healthy ways. Surround yourself with friends, take a break from the dating scene and focus on doing things to make yourself more confident. Focus on self improvement, however you see fit. Most importantly, you need to either sit down and start writing the reasons you need affection so badly and get into abusive relationships or talk to somebody about it. Sometimes, friends just aren't the answer to this one. If you need someone who won't judge you or brush you off just to talk about themselves some more, look into a therapist or life coach. There's no shame in seeking help when you need it.
2007-11-18 23:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no herbal remedy but maybe you should try counseling. There has to be a reason you are seeking out these type of relationships and once you find the reason you can begin to change it from within yourself to help you to make the right choices in relationships.
2007-11-18 23:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by LPN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs affection, you just need to learn how to accept only the right kind of affection.
You may need some therapy to realize why you get into these abusive relationships.
Maybe just friends with women is what you need right now.
2007-11-18 23:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by serene e 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why your an addict and how to overcome it before it wastes your life. I used Neuro Linguistic Programming to remove codependent roles in my personality that caused me to be attracted to abusive people like my mother and father.
Although it took a long time. You might try hypnosis but be careful with anyone claiming to be a professional in mental health.They are not required to be mentally healthy themselves.
2007-11-18 23:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by China Preggo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one should ever want to give up their need for affection. That'd be stupid. Seriously.
Affection is something great to have.
Sorry for the a.s.s.h.o.l.e.s. in your life though. It's not fair when stupid s.h.i.t. like that happens to great people such as yourself.
2007-11-18 23:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by agieagieagie22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋