Would it bother you if your fiance blew you off for work?

Question

I haven't seen my fiance in four days and instead of wanting to spend time with me she is volunteering to work extra hours at her job. She loves what she does but c'mon!!

Just for the record...
This isn't a career job and her parents are paying for the wedding. She honestly just enjoys being there.

Answer 1

maybe you should be asking her what gives instead of getting a bunch of opinions from people that know nothing of your situation - not trying to sound bi**chy - but we're definitely not in the right position to give you any advice!

Answer 2

Four days is a long time to go without seeing each other. Has she given you a good reason for all this work? Is she paying something of or is she working hard so you have a nice wedding? Ask her straight out what the go is. If there is no good reason then tell her you miss her and want to see more of her and that no job is more important than spending time together even though you are going to spend the rest of your lives together she should also respect you. It may a great job but it does sound a bit much. Good luck.

Answer 3

Does she need extra money for anything? Like the wedding? A trip coming up soon? Is she angry about anything? For example... did you have to work late recently and weren't able to meet her? Is she trying to get some kind of revenge? Why haven't you met for four days? maybe she is annoyed/upset about that, and givng you some of the same treatment-thinking..."see how you like it".

If not then what that means is that she would rather work than spend time with you. That is not to say that she enjoys work more than spending time with you, though.

It is likely that even if she enjoys work she also has other reasons for wanting to work- extra money. thinking about career prospects, feeling needed and appreciated etc.

I would talk to her and see what is up. Try to figure out if something is bugging her. Basically, if all she could come up with is she would rather work, which basically means she agrees that she would rather be at work than hanging out with you then you need to think about how long that is going to last, whether you think it will get better or worse, and how much it annoys you now, and in the future.

If it was me. I would have told her she is not working. I don't think I am the big bad boss, and I don't pretend to be able to control any woman, but I would have made it clear that if that is how much she likes work then she's not the one for me.

Because I would be worried about how she will be feeling 5 years into marriage when she sees me every day, and has done for 5 years.

Answer 4

No. Maybe she is working her @$$ off to save money for the wedding. Weddings are expensive! My fiance has been working 16 hours days...and I understand that he *wants* to do it, because he is saving for our future.

Set a date for next weekend, and let this go. It sounds like she is just trying to bring in some extra cash.

Provided there are no other signs that something is "wrong", relax and know that she is simply trying to help you guys get off to a good start. Nothing wrong with that!

Also, she could be nervous about the wedding (100% normal). Some people turn into workaholics instead of talk about their concerns. Ask her if there is anything she wants to get off of her chest.

Answer 5

You have to realize that you are two ppl. Somethings that make her happy might not make sense to you but, they still make her happy. If the two of you cant work out some sort of reasonable arrangement then you should rethink marriage. I understand you feel slighted and you need to talk to her about this. Things like this will build resentment and only create more issues. You need to learn before you get married to work out this kind of issue. it's essential to a healthy marriage.

Also, if you get married you will be living together and you may appreciate the time on your own to per sue your own hobbies. That is as long as you two have a healthy amount of time together.

Answer 6

He should not be treating you like that! You adult adult males needless to say made plans and he blew you off. He would desire to've informed his buddies he's busy and he will carry with them later. All that different stuff he did is so stupid. he's immature and should no longer be performing like that. possibly he's having difficulty with money or some thing else is bothering him. i think of you will desire to proceed to be calm and permit him know you're there for him to alleviate any tension or tension. Or tell him to end being immature!

Answer 7

let her be happy and the fact that she enjoys her job is rare, how many people do you know that actually enjoy their jobs and what to go to work when they dont have too. just think of all the money that she is bringing in for the 2 of you. maybe your smothering her too and this is the only way that she can find relief from you

Answer 8

Sometimes you have to make sacrifices to make progress in your career. Maybe she feels she can do it now because shes NOT married, and is tryin to get as many bonus points in now to get as far as she can. Maybe she knows that busting her behind now for a week, can lead to more money that will last for years. or a promotion to a much cushier position... where she can have more time and money to spend with and on you.

(My fiance is a pessimist and says you need to talk to her about it ASAP, cuz ... well... hes a guy with "worst case scenerio" thinking.)

Answer 9

Is she working extra hours in order to pay for things for the wedding? If you are going to get jealous about her working your marriage is doomed before it even begins.

Answer 10

If she needs the money then i can understand or if it is mandatory. If she is a workaholic then this will be your marriage also... Personally not seeing your fiance for 4 days is a stretch but maybe she isnt clingy and needy .