im suppose to be a bridesmaid in an up coming wedding, actually a junior bridesmaid, i really don't see a difference...but whatever. The junior bridesmaid dressed are different then the regular bridesmaid dresses. but because i'm...lets call it...bigger in the chest, i can't wear the dress for juniors and that, is putting a lot of stress on everyone. because i'm not a fat girl, the dress would fit me great if i wasn't so top heavy. so what advice can you give me? or help in some way? please.
thanks.
2007-11-18 14:23:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
like the other junior bridesmaid[my best friend] is a frikken stick! and she fits into a 2 in that size. so its causes stress of the bride and everyone because, truthfully the bride is a perfectionist..so its weird and embrassing to just have to try on thousands of dress.
and i thought it would be wonderful..ha maybe when i'm shopping for my own. :]
2007-11-18 14:36:21 · update #1
the bride also is blaming people for this problem...gah..major guilt..
2007-11-18 14:37:38 · update #2
okay: there are 2 adult bridesmaids, 2 junior bridesmaids[me and my friend]. and i have to wear the adult size instead, they dont have the dress thats wanted in my size.
anything else??
2007-11-18 14:40:25 · update #3
Oh I know this problem well. I was 15 years old, a size 3 with 32DD chest. Basically you're going to have to wear a woman's dress or get the junior bridesmaid dress in a size to fit your chest and have it taken in to fit everywhere else.
I had to be in a wedding when I was 19 and my chest had grown to 32EE while I was a size 6 and I had the worst time with the dress that she chose, because it was way better suited to flat chested women. You guys don't know how good you've got it!!!
Anyway, the dress was 2 pieces and the problem was definitely with the top, because it was a halter wrap-around top. I had to order a strapless bra from England. And to top it off the dress was an awful yellow/orange color.
Anyway, I sympathize. As with most clothes, the best idea is to fit the biggest part of you (your chest) and have the rest of it altered to fit.
Good luck!!
2007-11-18 15:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by Freke 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe this is a hint that you don't have to be in the wedding party. It should be a day of joy not hassle and if the bride who organises the dresses has a problem she should either take you out of it or figure it out. I would guess they should just get a similar colour dress that fits you and is comfortable for you as the junior and senior bridesmaids should be comfy as well as look stylish. Also do you even really want to be in the wedding? Just because you have an ample chest doesn't mean the world is ending. Can you talk to the stressed out bride? Ask if you can be excused from the wedding or offer to wear something else that will still blend in. She asked you knowing you were top heavy and fittings may be tricky but no one is too blame for what god gave you. Good luck and hope it works out for you and the bride has a lovely wedding.
2007-11-18 14:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Kym M 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1. How many bridesmaids are you planning to have for your wedding? 2 adult bridesmaids 2. How much do you intend to spend on your bridesmaid dresses? £55 each (they paying for there own) 3. What do you find most difficult about buying a bridesmaid dress? trying to find dresses that both bridesmaids like and suit them 4. What colour do you want your Bridesmaid dresses to be? Burgundy 5. What’s the biggest turn off with Bridesmaid dresses? too plain i like detail on them 6. Would you order your bridesmaid dresses online? Yes 7. Would you buy your bridesmaid dresses abroad, If yes why? no because I have heard of other peoples problems. 8. How many months in advance do you begin to research your bridesmaid dresses? I did 2 months before wedding but i did have 3 months to plan the whole lot.
2016-05-24 03:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by georgina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not understanding how the dress not fitting you is causing stress. It is up to the bride to figure out a solution. Either she will decide to have you wear the dress the bridesmaids are wearing, or maybe she will let you choose another dress that compliments the other dresses. Are you the only junior bridesmaid? If so then you should be able to find another dress, even if there is 1 other jr bridesmaid it shouldn't matter if your dresses are different.
If the bride is freaking out about this tell her to get a grip and figure it out!
Good luck!
2007-11-18 14:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Reba 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
the bride needs to acknowledge your body differences and put everyone in a dress that's appropriate for all body shapes and sizes - and if that means that the two 'junior' bridesmaids wear the same dress as the 'bridesmaids' so be it - she could alter your head pieces and other accessories to distinguish you if that's what she wants. I had two 'junior bridesmaids' but mine were 11 and 9 - they were kids. Suggest to the bride that she speak to someone at the bridal store where you're getting your dresses and get professional advise. You need to be comfortable in what you're wearing, and she needs to work with you on that!
2007-11-18 15:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by Fluff S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since your dress is already different from the regular bridesmaids you could always just throw on a shawl or something over it to cover up your chest a bit more. Otherwise that is the bride's issue...she will need to decide if she wants to put you in a different dress or work with the one you already have. This is out of your hands, so don't worry about it.
2007-11-18 14:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You just need to tell the bride that you're sorry but the dress she has selected does not come in your size. Invite her to go shopping with you at the bridal boutique to find a dress that goes with the look of her wedding, but that also fits you appropriately.
2007-11-18 14:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by vanessa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U really can't do anything, u just have a bugger chest and she knew b4 she asked u to be in the wedding that ur chest was big. Keep working with the bride to find a solution. But if she's stressing u or making u feel uncomfortable or hurting ur spirit then don't put up with it anymore.
2007-11-18 14:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by Miss. K 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm sorry this is causing you stress. It shouldn't be, you can't help that you a bigger on top than the other Jr BM. Don't let the bride's freak out bother you. Since she's getting married she should be mature enough to handle this situation.
2007-11-18 15:12:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jill 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They should be able to fit the dress to your body. You will probably have to buy a larger size and have it taken in at the waist or have a normal size let out. Depending on how much room is needed.
2007-11-18 20:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋