Step-brother in wedding party?

Question

I have a sister, two half-brothers and a step-brother... I am going to have my other siblings involved, do I have to include my step-brother?

We grew up together but we haven't really talked since we were about 14 years old. We are the same age and our parents treated us completely different so we had somewhat of a falling out in high school.

Of course I'm inviting him! I'm asking about the wedding party...

My half-brothers are as much as my real brothers...

Answer 1

When my step brother got married, He had my Step Sister (which is his real/full blooded sister) and his half brother (from his mom and my dad) But I was not asked in the wedding party, however I was invited to the wedding. My feelings were a little hurt, but it was there day and I wasn't that self centered to say anything to them. Now, about 7 yrs later, our relationship is still the same, and there are no hard feelings at all, he is happy and that is all that matters.

But it is YOUR wedding and you can choose who you want! I would much rather not be in a wedding, than be in a wedding over guilt.

Good Luck, and CONGRATS! on the wedding.

Answer 2

you have to think of the long-term - you had a falling out when you were teens - would you like to rekindle that relationship now? Perhaps you could include him by having him do a reading or escort a special family member down the aisle if you aren't comfortable having him in your wedding party - keep in mind though - it may stand out that he's the only 'sibling' not in the wedding party - this is a decision that could affect your relationship with him for many years to come. Try talking to him and see if you want him in your wedding party because of what he means to you, or simply because he's your half brother - you should have people standing up with you because of the special relationship you share, not because of the type of affiliation you have with them.

Answer 3

Like i told another person:

You never HAVE to ask anybody. But you better be prepared for some seroiusly hurt feelings and a relationship with him that is strained even further. The rest of the family might also be pretty upset. If you are prepared to deal with those consequences then leave him out.

This would be a time where something like readings or a position as an usher might be appropriate since you are not close.

Answer 4

You never really "have" to invite anyone to your wedding. Although, if you are including your half-brothers I think it would be rude and insensitive to not invite your step-brother. But maybe you are close to your half brothers and not to your step brother. It's what ever you choose. Although, know that whatever action you take will probably have consequences. (In example, if you don't invite him, he may be hurt and either ask you right out why he wasn't chosen or might get mad too.) Goodluck.

Answer 5

Hi. No...you most certainly do NOT have to include him in the bridal party. No one HAS to be included, period!

Since you have not spoken since you were 14, possibly he would not care either way himself!

If you do want to involve him in a small way, possibly he could be an usher; do a reading; or pass out wedding programs if you are having them.

Answer 6

Do not let yourself feel obligated to have anyone in the bridal party that you don't want there. Hubby wanted his best friend as his best man. My MIL forced hubby to have his brother as best man. Of course she tried make him feel obligated and when that didn't work she threw a big tanty and threatened a family war until we relented. (The same brother who abused him horribly growing up and had to be thrown into foster care). It was horrible and not only did we have to suffer with him on our special day now we have to see him in ALL of the photos. Now his bro has been married 4 times and has NEVER had hubby as the best man. (Though I'm sure hubby doesn't mind.)
Just because someone is related doesn't mean you have to make them such a large part of it. You should have those whom you feel closest to being such a big part of your big day. If you weren't close growing up and have had a 'falling out' I see no need to make him a part of it. I think inviting him is inclusion enough.

Answer 7

"i'm strongly pondering skipping the marriage." you recognize that is WHY she did no longer p.c.. you! considering you're self-based, and make each and every thing approximately your self. Being a bridesmaid in a family contributors wedding ceremony isn't a fascinating. Your brother did the right ingredient in no longer harassing his fiancee into choosing somebody she did no longer want. "i understand i'm going to experience stupid every time somebody asks me how i understand the happy couple and that i could respond with "i'm the groom's sister."" yet you will no longer experience sill while actual everyone on the marriage is calling "the place's the groom's sister", and your loved ones has to declare "She did no longer prefer to return, by way of fact the bride did no longer p.c.. her to be a bridesmaid"? "Skipping my brother's wedding ceremony might easily reason a super variety of rigidity in our courting yet at this factor i do no longer even care Then do it. Your brother, and something of your loved ones, could learn what drama queen, egocentric cow you're.

Answer 8

Since your half-brothers are also his half-brothers you should at least offer to have him a an usher, candle lighter or something like that. He doesn't need to be in the actual wedding party. Since you are both adults now you need to let things go that happened in high school.

Answer 9

You should have people in your wedding that you love and want to share in your special day. Is he that person? If not, then just include a special hand written part in his invitation telling him that you miss seeing him and it would be a great addition to your day if he could come and share in your happiness.

Answer 10

do you think he will be upset if you don't have him in the wedding party? if you do, just have him be an usher. it's part of the wedding, but not the actual bridal party. probably though, he feels the same way about you as you feel about him, so he may not care at all about being in the bridal party.