I've talk to this guy every day for the past 4 months, and i mean EVERY DAY. Texting and calling nonstop all day. We know everything about each other and every day i like him even more. When we're both home on the weekends, we spend every waking moment together, but problem is, he's still interested in his ex. We talk about it, most of the time he aggs on how annoying she is and that if he would have known it would be this drama filled, he wouldn't have gotten in the relationship in the first place, but he still says that he doesn't know why, but he can't get over her. What the heck do I do. Hes been sending signals my way that he likes me too, but his ex spent a substantial amount of time with him this past weekend and I saw him for about an hour :(
2007-11-18 14:07:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
something similiar happened to me
Only time will cure him, so yeah, unless your patient and understanding, look for someone else?
Tell him how you feel for him, ask him if he's ready to move on, if not, you should move.
I got hurt bad by someone like that, I hope the same does not happen to you.
2007-11-18 14:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by make_it 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just back out of the situation. If he were really that into you, the ex-girlfriend would not be an issue. I know it hurts and I've been there, but it usually doesn't end pretty if you stick around and wait for him to change his mind. If he were going to get really into you and not the ex, he would have done it by now.
2007-11-18 14:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop him! If he's still talking and seeing his ex, then he's still interested in her. If he says he can't get over her, then he won't. I might show signs that he likes you or has feelings for you but he seems to still love her. If you still want to try and make it work let him know how constantly hearing about her bothers you. Either that or move on.
2007-11-18 14:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy may like you for your companionship, but if you feel that strongly about him you need to tell him that you'd like to be more than friends.
Its quite possible that because she is his ex, he still feels a connection to her. If that's all it is, the connection may disappear when he realizes that you're giving him a chance.
If it turns out he doesn't think of you that way, at least you know you have the guts to do something about your feelings.
2007-11-18 14:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to let it go until he figures it out.
I would tell him you are doing that too.
You also need to read, "He's just not that into you".
Its a great book, and a great mantra to live by. It will totally help you just get over it.
The point is--
If he is into you, you will be together. If he's not, it just was not meant to be.
He is obviously still into his ex. Do you want to be with someone who is emotionally involved with someone else? Why would you want to shortchange yourself like that?
Its not worth it for you in the long run. He needs to knock it off with her.
Save yourself some grief, let it go until the time is right.
2007-11-18 14:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jennawae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to spend the rest of your life playing second fiddle to another woman? If not, then move on...and fast!!! He's already told you that he can't get over her...so what's the point in wasting your time when you could find someone who will be your dream come true?
2007-11-18 14:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by Pamm & Dave D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he calls or texts you, let him know he needs to deal with his relationship with his ex, before he comes on to you. Explain that you don't like being made second to someone that treats him badly, while you treat him good. Stay away, and let him make up his mind who he wants, respect yourself, because he sure isn't respecting your feelings.
2007-11-18 14:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is trying to get over her, and at the same time he likes you. He is just being honest with you so it doesn't come up later on.
2007-11-18 14:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
... youre not even dating, unless youre dating its not your buisness i know this is a hard answer to hear but lets be real here. If hes not over his ex and he wants to be than he really isnt over her. He actuallydoes still like her and apparently he likes you, either hes waiting for you to make a move on him or hes waiting to make the move on you. id suggest you go first.
2007-11-18 14:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They wrote a song about that. My bodys lying here but my mind is on the other side of town. Get rid of that loser. You sound wayyy to good for that half stepping stuff.
2007-11-18 14:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋