I was with my friend the other day and we were driving around and pulled over to talk and he ended up kissing me and then it went faster and faster from there. we would have ended up having sex if i hadn't had to get home. i've only known him for about 3 weeks and yesterday was the first time me were alone together and this happened. I don't know what to do, and i have to go to school tomorrrow and see him and im afraid he will compleetly ignore me of expect to have sex. but im not ready to have sex im still a virgin.
2007-11-18 13:40:03 · 14 answers · asked by Havie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He and i are not a couple or anything we were just hanging out at the mall flirting a such. i was trying to be a good person and trying to get to know him because he judt move to my city. but in the car we didnt talk about having sex or anything. he kinda just took charge and started to undress me.. i didnt tell him no but i think he got the idea. im afraid to tell him no because i dont want him to stop talking to me and to ignore me.. i really like him its just that what happened last night startled me. i dont think i was giving him signs like that. and since i didnt have sex with him i think he might think im a tease.
2007-11-18 13:59:45 · update #1
I have him in my first period english class and we have a field trip to see a movie on tuesday and ill be taking him with me if he goes and im kinda nervous he might try some funny biz while we are in the movie....
i really really like this guy i just dont get where he got the idea that i wanted to have sex with him... i know i was flirting with him and being naughty but im fine with making out. I mean i hardly know him and its not like it was a date..
I just dont want him to drop me for some other girl, because he could have any girl he wanted and i want him to want me but not for sex
2007-11-18 14:49:33 · update #2
Go talk to him.
Be honest with him.
Tell him you aren't ready for sex. If doesn't respect your wishes and boundaries, then, frankly, he doesn't deserve your attention.
Good luck,
~W.O.M.B.A.T.
2007-11-18 13:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by WOMBAT, Manliness Expert 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let us clear up a misunderstanding that you have:you are no longer a virgin since you had sex with this guy.As to what you can do ,you can walk the school hall tomorrow with your head held high; and if you see him say hi to him.If he completely ignores you, then do precisely the same thing and ignore him too.If he tries to or wants to have sex with you ,then you can nicely,directly, and forcefully say no , thank you,I am not interested. However ,If he is nice and friendly and talks to you nicely, then respond in the same vein.
2007-11-18 14:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get out of school, it turns into a completely different situation. This guy doesn't just want to be friends. He might really like, or he might really like something else. I was always told, that if you're not ready to give in, then don't let him touch under your shirt or pants. It makes it a heck of a lot easier to say no.
2007-11-18 13:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by answermesweetly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reality check here...
Ask yourself...are you ready to have your first sexual encounter with a guy you've known for 3 weeks?
Probably not.
Ask yourself another question...are you going to die a gruesome death, or of immense pain...if he won't talk to you?
If he doesn't want to talk to you...just think of my 4 special words...Too Bad So Sad...and move on.
If he does talk and later tries to have sex with you...again after 3 weeks of knowing him...say no. If he keeps trying, just continue to say no...and don't feel bad for not doing that for him either...and if doesn't like your answer...Too Bad So Sad, wave goodbye to him and move on.
Keep your self-respect.
2007-11-18 13:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by stonehands 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to know if a guy really loves you, say no to sex for a long time. If he still wants to be with you after that long time, he loves you. If he keeps asking for sex after you have expressed your wishes to wait, don't waste your time with him. He obviously does care about your wishes and just wants that one thing...you know...
2007-11-18 13:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Velociraptor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whooaa your going to school with him. tough situation.. okay here talk to him first. or he will talk to you first either way u guys need to talk. first are you guys together? becuase here you said you and your friend... so it could always be a fling or a makingout kind of friend thing. so if you guys are just friends then just whatever about it or friends with benifits then just straight out tell him your not ready for it and he should respect that... if he doesn't forget him.. either way you should tell him...
good luck
2007-11-18 13:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him, just simpily say hi to him, give him a hug and a kiss on the cheek. Thats all. You don't need to do anything you don't want to do.
2007-11-18 13:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. And if he only cars about sex then maybe his not that great of a guy you know.
2007-11-18 13:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by The sky is up 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont want to have sex with someone you barley know, or arent in a serious relationship with. if he ignores you because you didnt have sex with him, then obviously he doesnt care about you, why would you want someone like that, especially lose your virginity to him. save it for someone who really cares about you
2007-11-18 13:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he only wants you for sex (which is what it sounds like) then you could do better than him. dont give yourself to him until your married plus, the first time is painful.
he sounds like my ex. a manwhore and player. (sorry)
i regret going out with him badly.
dont do it.
2007-11-18 13:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by !~pSyChO g1RL~! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋