My boyfriend and I have been dating for a long time, and we're both sexually active and practice safe sex practices. We have sex a few times a month, but sometimes I really don't want it. We'll be in bed and I'll just lie there, and he'll continue to try to get me in to it. Despite the fact I tell him I don't want to either because I'm tired or because he doesn't have a condom. I have a thyroid condition that makes my fertility rate extremely low, and sometimes I just can't get risk getting pregnant. But sometimes he'll just lift me up on top of him, or put himself on top of me and engage anyway. I don't want it.. and I seem extremely bored through the whole thing and sometimes I'll try to push him off of me, but he won't move because he's much bigger and stronger than me... and he doesn't want me to relieve his blue-balls orally, and he doesn't want to do it himself... how can I make him listen to me?
2007-11-18 13:35:56 · 14 answers · asked by Suzie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best thing for you to do in this situation would be to tell him a straightforward answer that you're not in the mood to do these things with him. You may have to say it in a harsher tone then you are now, though. If he doesn't respect your boundaries after you've told him, then you should break up with him and wait for a guy who will respect your wishes. Best of luck!
2007-11-18 13:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ meme ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to be serious with him. I am just like you, I wont make a serious demand. Of course, I'll say what I want. But guys just ignore it unless you make a serious demand. I have been in a situation like that with my ex once and I eventually started crying while he was going and I told him I didn't want to have sex.
[[ basically rape ]]
You have to be serious, because guys will just ignore you
unless you don't serious speak up.
2007-11-18 13:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lilly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't listen when you say, "I don't want to," that's rape.
There's nothing you should do to "try to convince him." If you don't want to, you don't want to! You don't need a reason other than that.
To be honest, I'd get rid of him. He doesn't sound like he cares very much about your wishes. He's just interested in getting himself off. Heaven forbid you DO get pregnant from him and are tied to him forever with a kid. :(
2007-11-18 13:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
just sit down and have a talk with him.
if he doesnt care about what you say you should endyour relationship before he ends up hurting you even bigger gettin you pregnant.
hes probably the type of person that is addicted to sex, if you dont sit down and have a chat with him his sex addiction can get bigger and bigger.
and then it would be even harder to take care of.
you dont have to listen to what any of us are sayin its just our opinions.
do what you think is best for you.
2007-11-18 13:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
all i can say is break up with him he's using you and if you keep letting this happen who knows were it might lead,physical violence. if he won't take no for an answer and won't really listen to what you have to say, why stay with him, wouldn't you like a man that took no for an answer??think long and hard about that relationship OK!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-18 13:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by ---- 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should respect your feelings and not force you. Maybe you need to move on with your life because he doesn't seem to care about what you say to him. It does not sound like your in love so why are you together
2007-11-18 13:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to stop. If he is making you have sex against your will, he is raping you - and that's a criminal offense.
Sex is something that needs to be consented to by both parties.
You both need to sit down and have a talk about it........
2007-11-18 13:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by miss_tinkerbell_fairy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and say you dont want it in a tone that he will understand because he has to feel u dont want it he cant make u do it.
2007-11-18 13:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by dejannea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to break up with him. Although u have been dating a long time, he obviously doesn't respect u or your body. This may become abusive. Break up now b4 it's TOO LATE!!!
2007-11-18 13:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by mango_luver 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sorry but that is assault (rape) --- if you say no and he forces you then its legally rape ---- he is inconsiderate uncaring if he does not listen call the police and charge him --- im very serious here ---- if you dont want to do that then dump his sorry behind and thank yourself lucky ---- best wishes
2007-11-18 13:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋