Guys, would you give me another chance? Girls, what should I do?

Question

I met this guy at a party, and we totally hit it off. He had this major crush on me, but then he kept hearing rumors that I didn't like him (Which weren't true at ALL). So, his friends told him to "move on"... which he did. And he told his best friend that he doesn't even want to talk to me, and that he won't come to this party because I'm going to be there...

But then, I talked to him, told him that everything was made up, and that I like him. (This was later on that day when he told his best friend that he was pissed off at me.)

I asked if we still had a chance, and he said "It's sad because now, no. But earlier..."
I was just wondering that maybe it was just all about bad timing? Or is he actually not going to consider giving me another chance...?

He also told me that he was too afraid to talk to me, because he lost all his confidence after being rejected once. He's a really sensitive guy...

Answer 1

No offense, but if he is that easily emotionally damaged, let him go

Answer 2

This guy might be some what of a sensitive guy, but this guy is playing his cards(options) Most guys in that sense always look for some way to say no or find away out. He might of had a crush, but it sounds like his friends have a influence on him to which all friends do. Even if you two start dating its always gonna be rocky and tense. Look around you how many people do you know broke up and went back together and made it last. This is almost the same sense. You are stuck between a rock and a hard spot that you will not get out of with out someone getting hurt if you two start dating. To be honest to will more likely be you.

Answer 3

How was he rejected when he never asked you how you felt in the first place? Rumors are so nasty and when this happens, people shouldn't believe the rumors, but go directly to the source that way everyone knows what's going on. I think he should have at least forgave you when you told him the rumors weren't true. I commend you for going to him to straighten things out. Good luck.

Answer 4

Say to him that u find it sad that he would believe other people over you, especially when you are telling him to his face. I cant believe that he would turn u down when uve told him u like him and you know he likes you. What a loser!! I dont know his reason but u tell him that u REALLY care about him and dont understand his inflexibility about it...ask him if he still likes you now. Even if he has "got over you", he can still rekindle those feelings cos they will still be there somewhere, its not as if uve been really nasty to him or anything. Just tell him ur upset that he wont give u a chance, especially when it was others gossip that did the damage, its totally unfair, its like letting others rule ur love life.

Answer 5

You need to explain to him that you always liked him.... you really DIDN'T reject him....be really nice to him and explain to him that you DO want to be with him... and that you know he was hurt by the rumors. You want to make him feel better after those terrible rumors... rather than leaving you both hurt. But be careful... if you do something really mean to him in the future, you'll get a really bad reputation... you said he's very sensitive. You've gotta be sensitive, too.

Answer 6

What a baby. You cant turn your feelings on and off that fast. Maybe hes trying to get back at you by telling you that he doesnt like you. Guys are jerks and you didnt do anything wrong but if hes not willing to talk to you or even be in the same place as you then hes completly lame and very immature.

Answer 7

He obviously had something about him you really liked to go to him after that !
You did the somewhat right thing ( pat on the back )
but he had you rapped around his finger no offense !
if a man feels that way about you move on, i would have went to him and told him that those things wasnt true and said i'am srry for everything and walked away! he didnt like that you asked him it basically turned him off !
allways let a man chase you, not the other way around !

Answer 8

He sounds like a twit... not finding out the truth and going on rumour. Ditch him before he really hurts you. You don't need that kind of rot in your life. He may look sweet, but someone, somewhere is likely fed up with his jerk ways. You need a guy who will take your word for things and look after you no matter what the rotten gossips try to lay out there about you.

Best wishes in finding a honey who will take your word for things and support and back you in the way you deserve.

Cheers

Lisa

Answer 9

If after being rejected once has caused him to loose all of his confidence, does that not tell you something about his emotional strength and stability? If he lets his own mind run him down, how may he ever be of any support to you?

Sounds to me like he's playing games with you, wants you to chase him?

Perhaps the real concern might be if he will give himself another chance, he's already used up the chance you gave him, and you've not wronged anyone.
He's the one needing another chance, not you. :)

Answer 10

Tell him you understand that he should feel this way, but you did not reject him. He listened to gossip when what he should have done was go straight to the source (YOU). If he is more interested in believing the rubbish malicious people will spread, maybe he needs to think strongly about what is the right thing to do. You done nothing wrong. Good luck.

Answer 11

Any guy who doesn't want to give a girl another chance just because they heard a rumor is just plain dumb. Everyone deserves a second chance.

Maybe you could talk to him again, reassure him that you wouldn't outright reject him. Let him know that you want to try again, and that there's no truth in rumors.