I'm talking about consentual sex between adults. As a woman, I get so sick of hearing other women say, "He used me!", when they did what they wanted to do, and got out of it what they put in. So what's the problem, and why blame the guy? What do you think?
2007-11-18 11:32:24 · 19 answers · asked by sustasue 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally, it really annoys me when women do this! As a female, I think people like that give out a bad signal.
There are women who become victims of genuine sexual assault, and because of these women who cry 'Wolf', there are cases where these women are not taken seriously.
I've found, where a couple of people I know are concerned, alcohol is a big culprit - they have a few too many and end up consenting to sex, and the next day feel a bit embarrassed/guilty/ashamed and so blame the guy to induce a 'Oh poor you!' response from their peers rather than a 'You did what? Again?!' response!
That's my two pence anyway.
2007-11-18 11:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by ::El:: 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i dont think it's righ to say that. At a certain age, you realize when its an appropriate time to take it to that level, and should be smart enough. Most guys do wnat the 'one' thing but when things dont go a womans way n they r upset bc the guy is the jerk, its teh only sure fire thing 2 say that will make us feel better, im 22 , and im too smart for that. I cried about that when i was 18 and below. not anymore!
2007-11-18 17:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, and this type of response from girls usually happens when they don't really know the guy. They have sex with a guy on the first date and expect the guy to have a serious long term relationship with them. If you have a one night stand be prepared for the guy not to start a relationship. Because 75% of the time a one night stand is a one night relationship.
2007-11-18 11:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by adam K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think its right to blame others period.
Its easier to blame the guy then openly admitted you were in it for sex. Women also cry rape if the sex isn't good because they get more sympathy when they say they were used or raped. I think its also because she would be considered a whore or a slut if it was found she was having sex with multiple guys then saying it wasn't good enough or just saying she did it.
2007-11-18 11:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by Scott 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To many women agreeing to sex is either openly, privately to herself, or subconsciously sealing the deal to a committed relationship. If a man dumps her or "cheats" on her after that she feels it's a betrayal. Even if nothing was every discussed. Of course that's entirely unfair because the only committed relationship is one where both parties agree to it. Once someone breaks that contract, the only option for the betrayed is to leave. And sometimes she gets money to live if she relied on him or they have kids.
2007-11-18 11:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women have been doing this since Eve.
The problem is when the courts take it seriously.
I am the father of daughters, a brother to my sisters and have been a good son, grandson and nephew so of course I do want the people I love treated decently.
But I am the first to admit that good girls can go bad, like the girl I married.
Today I'm like Rodney, "Take my wife, please!"
2007-11-18 11:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, some guys do, but its annoying when after a relationship they use it as a justification to hate him... when chances are, they were using him for the same reason but then slowly wanting more.
Its sort of funny sometimes... in a sick way
2007-11-18 11:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't right. You're either an adult woman who made an adult decision for which you should be responsible, or some sort of impaired childish person who needs a warning sign tattooed on her forehead.
2007-11-18 11:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didnt know it is always our fault(men)....I thought everyone knew that the guy is the problem . How dare you make it sound as if we dont use every girl for sex or sexual favors....what other lies are you going to try and spread....The easter bunny is real and so is santa...LOL
2007-11-18 11:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by robert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think this comes with all the pretending that women don't like sex.
2007-11-18 11:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by so 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋