Best Friends Death?

Question

When someone close to you dies all sorts of ppl come out of the woodworks...which is nice dont get me wrong. But what do I say, or what to ppl expect me to say when they say things like 'im sorry for your loss' or 'sorry about your friend' or 'how are you?'....you know? do i say 'thanks, but no thanks i feel like i wanna curl up in the corner and die' or something like that. How do you handle that type of situation gracefully?

Answer 1

I think the important thing is that they at least acknowlege your are grieving... that is certainly better than those who go into hiding and avoid you!
A simple 'thankyou' would be enough... if words fail you then answer as simply as you can. If they ask how you are then perhaps just say "taking one day at a time".
People don't expect you to pour out your indepth feelings just because they ask how you are... they are really just letting you know that they sorry you are grieving.

So sorry for the loss of your friend... grief is a huge weight to bear and I hope you gain a little more strength every day.

Answer 2

I experienced a similar situation a little while ago. My father passed away at the end of September. I was so amazed how many people came to the funeral home. It was great, but where were they when he was alive and in and out of the hospital for the past year? My father loved to talk and contemplate about his past. He would have loved to have one last conversation with these people.

As for your question, in these types of situations, people don't know what to say. I just posted a question on here because I was mad at one of my friends for asking me if I was dating anyone new and then going on and on about her new boyfriend. I thought that was insensitive, but maybe she really didn't know what to say to me. When then say, "sorry about your loss," just say "thank you, I appreciate that." or if they say "how are you," Say them it has been hard and that you still can't believe it. If they are decent human beings, they should know that you are grieving, they should not expect you to carry on a profound conversation.

BTW, I know I am a stranger, but I have sorry about your friend. I know what it is like to lose someone close and you will be in my prayers. God Bless.

Answer 3

You politely say thank you and if they ask "how are you doing", just say that you are holding up. No one expects extended conversation at such a solemn time. But you aren't expected to be rude when people are trying to support the family and friends of the one who has died. I am sorry for your loss and the funeral will be difficult but it's important to be there for your friend and his or her family.

Answer 4

You may say:

"Thank you."
"Thanks. It was very sudden. We were shocked."
"Thank you for coming to the funeral. It means a lot to me that so many people are here."
"Thank you. I loved them very much."
"Thank you. It was very thoughtful of you to send flowers."

Whatever fits the situation, say it with sincerity and remind yourself that in a society that worships youth and vigor, death and grief have become subjects most people try hard to avoid, so the fact that someone is even acknowledging that a loss occurred is a big step for many people and they may be very uneasy approaching you for fear of saying the wrong thing, even when they are trying to show compassion.

Please accept my condolences on the loss of your best friend.

Answer 5

Just thank them for their concern, and as long as it's done politely, you can always say something like, "I really am not ready to talk about it now" or "I would rather just be by myself right now" or something along that order.

Answer 6

You say thank you, for starters. The people are expressing their concern for you.

If they ask how you are, and if it's still difficult for you, you can say "It's still difficult." You don't have to explain any further if you don't want to.

Answer 7

We lose a good adviser
this is life it's common death and birth.
if you think prolong there is no end.