What responsiblities do the groom's parents have for the wedding?

Question

We are planning a wedding, and aren't sure what the groom's parents are traditionally "supposed" to help pay for. Please help!

Answer 1

Buy the workbook, "Planning A Wedding To Remember" by Beverly Clark. You can pick and choose what you want to use and keep track of everything you do. I found it really helpful and referred some friends to the book who also loved it.

It explains all the formal things you need to do if you are having a formal wedding but since I didn't do formal, I toned it down and used what I wanted. It explains the groom's families part (mine did but that was 5 yrs ago) and it also gives you a list of all the documents you will need to change after you marry.

As I planned each thing, I wrote it down in the book in pencil so I could change things later if I needed to (and I did :). You can also go to this link and register and see what they have online. I didn't register since I don't need the book so compare this to the book in the bookstore or library. I was going to go to the library but decided just to buy the book and I was so thankful I did. It was a good investment :)

http://www.planningaweddingtoremember.com/

Barnes & Noble
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/isbnInquiry.asp?z=y&endeca=1&isbn=0934081263&itm=5

I found my book at Michael's on the mark down rack in the back of the store so only had to pay $18 for it at the time. If you have a discount bookstore in your area, you might find one there, too.

I also recommend the book, "His Needs, Her Needs" for you and your fiance to read and discuss so you can understand each other better. It's a great way to learn how the other thinks and reacts to things before you get married.

And never raise your voice at each other or go to bed mad. My husband and I resolved this issue before we married because I came from a family who bickered all the time and I did not want a marriage like that. He came from a Christian home so didn't experience that but understood when I asked that we make that promise to each other. Always make up and say you are sorry before you part so if anything happens to the other, the survivor won't have to live with the regret of bitter words being the last ones said. It doesn't matter who started it or who was right or wrong, what is important is to act like mature adults and show respect and love to each other. Life is too short to stay angry so enjoy life and make your marriage a wonderful experience.

Wishing you a wonderful life together.... Congratulations !!

Answer 2

The "traditional" list has gone out the window. More and more couples are paying for the entire wedding themselves.

When the family CAN contribute usually what happens now is they decide how much money they want to give you. Then that is put towards the wedding fund in general. It's not broken up anymore into he pays for the dress, or she pays for the flowers.

But if you want to know the old way:
Rehearsal dinner
Accommodations for out-of-town ushers
Rehearsal dinner invitations
Alcohol at reception

Answer 3

there's a chain to seating at a ideal wedding ceremony. the mum of the bride is the final to be seated in the previous the bride and her father come down the aisle. So the grooms parents would precede the mum of the bride. regardless of the shown fact that, immediately very just about something is going.

Answer 4

There hasn’t been a “supposed to” in this department for many, many years. The bills are paid by whoever has volunteered to pay them. That the groom’s parents frequently give a rehearsal dinner or sponsor a honeymoon does not at all mean that assuming this financial burden is in any way required or even customary.

Welcome to 2007. Polite people do not use their birthdays, graduations, or even their weddings to browbeat, bully, blackmail, or otherwise bludgeon others into taking on expenses and responsibilities they’d rather decline.

Answer 5

Traditionally, the groom's parents pay for the rehersal dinner and the flowers and anything else they volunteer.

Good luck!

Answer 6

the groom's family traditionally pays everything for the wedding

Answer 7

Traditonally the groom's family pays for the rehersal dinner

:)

Answer 8

To help out in planning when asked. The couple pays for their own wedding these days.

Answer 9

the groom's family traditionally pays for the rehearsal dinner.

Answer 10

go to the library, barnes and noble, borders, whatever... and find a wedding etiquette book. Help ya right out. Mine took care of the rehersal, dj, and open bar. Just depends, communication helps too.