Yet it seems that men of the age I am interested in (40+) usually have at least a child out of their previous marriage. I know for a fact that I am not prepaired to co-exist with a child - let alone one that it is not mine, under the same roof. Though I can be with a man who will take care of his child at his own space and time and will not expect from me to act as a substitute mother. The question is really for single dads:- When you like a woman, would it be ok with you if she does not care to be a mom for your child? Is it ok for if the woman you like needs to keep a distance from your child? Or do all single dads (who are good dads) come with the idea: you like me - you MUST make space for my child in your life as well??
Let me make it easier: It is not that I hate children, I just don't feel like playing mom, or assuming the role of the stepmother, or sharing most of my time with him AND his child instead with him only. I don't care to have ALL of his time.
2007-11-18 11:14:45 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just want to have ALL of his time when he is with me, even if I get the least of his time compared to his child / children.
2007-11-18 11:15:53 · update #1
People, please understand:- I did mention the word "like children", I know that any good man would always put his child first upon anything and anybody. I am just completely scared of this role playing and it is obvious that mixed marriages have issues. How do you deal with those issues without destroying your life or somebody else's ??
2007-11-18 11:28:04 · update #2
You don't need to be a "baby setting slave" any more than you need to be a "baby making slave". One in five women, in the USA feel the same as you do.
Years ago I would have given anything to meet someone like you. When I was younger all women, my own age had children. My options were to co-exist with children, or stay alone. That has changed now that I am over 40, because there are more women that know what they want out of life at my age.
I have a passport full of stamps. I have photographs that I have taken around the world. I attribute this to the freedom, that not having children has given me.
The problem, for me, is the fact that most women whom don't wan to have children, are married, or have a lot of personal issues.
Fortunately I have a girlfriend that I love very much. She does not want children, and we have a lot of similar interests. We have traveled a lot.
Unfortunately, as most single "Child-Free" women go, she has all the issues to go with it. She gets along with almost nobody, has quit 5 jobs in three years.
There are lots of other men that don't want children. Be the best person you can be, and don't be one of the women with issues. You will find one of us, that is not currently in a relationship. Remember that your odds are not that bad if you are not the type with issues.
Good luck
2007-11-19 06:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by Marvin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't say what single dads will tell you, but parents generally put kids first, and expect you to get involved with the most important thing in their life..
If I were you I would look for a man with no children....
2007-11-18 19:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to be reasonable, if you are going to date a guy with children then the children comes apart of the package...There are plenty of single guys your age without children, so i would suggest you tried to find one. Because no single parent in their right mind allow someone else to come before their kids...
2007-11-18 19:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by Zarathustra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't like my kids you don't like me.
2007-11-18 19:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋