I had known my ex boyfreind was a certain type of man, the type that I never thought highly of, but as we hung out more and got to know each other better I ended up falling for a different side of him. We broke up after he cheated on me and even more I hate the type of man he is but yet I still love him. I still love the way we were toghether, the bond we had that I have never had with any other man and the way we would interact with each other and the other special things he did with and for me, and how he supported me when I needed it and was there for me when none of my so called friends were.
And I want to be his freind again but I dont want him to mistake my forgiveness and weakness and him get a swelled head that now he is the man for cheating on me but yet now I've forgiven him and that my wanting to be friends will eventually get him back "in" if you know what I mean
Im so confused. I do love him, though I hate the type of man he is, but I still want to have a friendship.
2007-11-18 09:29:45 · 5 answers · asked by lookinfortruth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have to say that I hate who he is as a boyfriend either to myself or other women he has been with. But as friends we clicked so well with so much in common. he is just a dog as a boyfreind but I do miss his companionship & freindship
2007-11-18 09:47:19 · update #1
In my opinion, move on.
Opposites do seem to attract, and it's exciting.
But usually that type of relationship is not gonna last as a long healthy relationship.
As you found out.
Whatever you loved in him, maybe try to find in the next guy.
I'm a guy, and i believe the saying is true, "once you cheat on a person, you'll cheat on that person again".
Any girl I've ever cheated on, I've eventually cheated on again.
I'm not proud of it, but i can't deny it.
If anything, you learn not to force relationships.
Hopefully you can learn not to force yours.
I'd say don't try to force any type of relationship with him, including friendship.
You'll be fine
Good luck
2007-11-18 09:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by Rik S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy cheated on you -- he's not a great catch. Period. Don't go back to him.
Unfortunately, the heart takes a while to catch up to reality. If you're in love with someone and that person betrays you, it can take while to absorb the betrayal. You still feel in love, even though your head knows the person's a jerk.
My advice is just stay away from him for a while, and let your emotions fade. Out of sight, out of mind. Eventually, you'll wonder what you ever saw in him. There are guys who will treat you the way you want to be treated, all the time.
2007-11-18 17:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you really hate the person.....just the way that one behaves.
You've heard the old saying that there's a thin line between love and hate, right?
Keep your head up, things are gonna be alright!
Peace
2007-11-18 17:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by sugarbee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you love the idea of him.
2007-11-18 17:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL TOOL! GIVE IT UP TO HIM AGAIN IM SURE HES GONNA RESPECT YOU!
2007-11-18 17:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋