why is it that Christians have no compassion?

Question

whenever things have happened to me, each and every time, the people who showed concern for me were lost people. The Christians/church people just vanished and just talked about how busy they were with their family. Like when my wife died. Not one church person called, came over, nothing, I got a few cards, but they didn't indicate that I could call them, the lost people were like here's my number, call me if you need anything. If I call a Christian about a need every time I get whining about how inconvenient it is and how busy they are. If I ask a lost person they clear their schedule, they don't complain, and they are there, no complaining nothing. Just cheerfully. I can't tell you how many situations this has been the case for. But I don't want my emotional support coming from lost people. It just doesn't seem like a good idea. but everytime something happens all the Christians vanish. It doesn't matter what the situation is. I am very involved in church....

it is like churches are only willing to love a person if they fit in a box, and if the person doesn't fit, then they don't love them. I can see this clearly. Go to a new church, they'll start asking you questions trying to classify you to see if you fit in the box or not. I've seen this over and over again. here's a test 2 people one person pretends to be poor the other rich.. one dresses poor and the other rich.. now in reality the 2 people are the same class.. but try it. see how the rich person is treated with more respect than the poor person. I'll bet if the poor person has a ton of Bible knowledge and the rich person has none the rich person will still betreated with more respect. It's almost like they only want who they can suck off of, and theydon't want to give. I know people need to give, and I'm a generous person and I'm kind hearted, but it's like people only want what theycan get.some people are no better than pidgeons who only come by when there's food..

I do not express my thoughts like this to people I know.

I honestly think it's wisconsin culture and that christians in other parts of the country are different

Answer 1

Hey, I am so sorry that this happened to you, but please do not say we are all like that. It is not true.


Please accept my apology.

I would not treat you this way.

Answer 2

<>< That is a pretty broad statement. Did you belong to this Church that you refer to? I find it really hard to believe that if you actually belong to the Church that no one did anything. To be clear, I am not a member of a Church currently but I know that they do rally around their own. I am very sorry to hear that your wife died and that you had little if no support in dealing with it. That had to be very hard. I am a Christian and I cannot tell you the number of times that I have dropped everything to help my non-Christian(and Christian alike) friends with things and feel that no one is there for me when I need help. I don't think it is just a Christian thing. I have come to believe MOST people in this world are all about themselves.

Answer 3

Lost people? Who the heck are these lost people? Are they just out wandering around aimlessly out there ? Sorry about your wife... but you seem like a needy type of person if you are always having to ask for help. There's that old saying.. " If you want a friend, you have to be a friend". Maybe you should take a long, hard look at your own self and examine your own Christian values before ragging on someone else.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, it's Christ that is perfect....not Christians. I hope you don't become bitter about Christ or Christianity over these bad apples. People are human first and foremost and will put themselves first most of the time. I'm happy that you have people in your life who give you support and love when you need it. I will suggest that you seek out a different church family until you find the right one. Some people choose a church based on all the wrong things....the music is cool, the size is good, the people look right, etc. Churches all have different personalities, like people, and you have to keep "trying them on" to find the right one. If you haven't been shown compassion by your current church family, I would encourage you to seek out another. It's especially worrisome if your pastor didn't even offer you that support....that's his job!

Answer 5

Find a different church. Not all Christians have no compassion. As Casting Crowns sings, "But if we are the Body
Why aren't His arms reaching
Why aren't His hands healing
Why aren't His words teaching
And if we are the Body
Why aren't His feet going
Why is His love not showing them there is a way
There is a way," as a message to those Christians who do nothing for others.
Again, it's not all Christians who are like this. All you can do is pray and keep turning to those lost people as you say since they are the one who are truly there for you.

Answer 6

No I am not sure of your particular church family but I have not had that experience. It is often the poorer Christians who donate time and money to help others although not always. I know many Christians who have compassion but I am just sorry you have never had the chance to experience it.Too many people feel the need to withdraw from pain and loss as it hits them on a personal level. Still many to care.
Peace Be With You,
Debra

Answer 7

Im sorry that your going thru this unfortunatley u r going to the wrong church. They're churches out there that just want to love u. check out other churches in ur area until u find one that fits. also just because someone goes to church doesnt mean theyre well. it means theyre on a spitual journey like you. Im sorry that no one was there for you during the death of your wife. must have been a lonely time for u. seek gods help and compassion not people. if god puts a person there in a time of need, rejoice, im a christian and i try. but their are times im going thru something too. god loves u and so do i. rejoice!

Answer 8

I know a Man that married a Christian woman that started to attend Church after a horrible experience of walking the streets at night and sleeping with all sorts of men.

She wanted to change her life and so she did. She went to Church and met her husband they have two children and she loves her life with God and Jesus.

The Church found out through the grapevine that she once was a prostitute and now they have no compassion for her. Hypocrites?

Answer 9

As one who has been Christian since 1977 (praise God), i do understand, and i come short also. But it is not universal. You're in America , and in a liberal area. This is not the primitive church (Acts 2-5). And make sure by Christian you only mean evangelical as apart from that it is not Christian. And is it is those that show the most charity: http://peacebyjesus.witnesstoday.org/RevealingStatistics.html

But make sure you are not harboring something that makes you overly sensitive and critical. http://peacebyjesus.witnesstoday.org/hurt+resentment2.html

Answer 10

agree,,, ALSO a christian I have seen the same. My thought is maybe not being as Christan as they would like me to be,I'm NOT worth the trouble...They seem to think that only the TOP CONTRIBUTORS will God listen to,, but I know that's not true. I think at times that is why I'm not a better Christian,,, I don't want to become heartless toward people I feel are less than me...God Bless them all!!! I have a sister whom we were VERY close until she thought that she was on a higher level than me.. and now it will never be the same.My belief is God loves us all,, the sinners we are.

Answer 11

Lost people depend on each other. I know several good Christians and they are the ones that turn their music up loud, let there dogs run loose and do all sorts of illegal things I guess because they are saved and think they are forgiven for all their wrong doings. I would rather have my lost friends to turn to as they are much more dependable and relyable and I can trust them.