I'm a vegetarian and my family doesn't respect or or even accept my decision. I'm 15, and my parents respect my decision and help me as much as they can. It's my other family members that don't. I've always been the source of stories and jokes, with my strong beliefs, clumsiness, and honor roll grades. I thought they were funny at first but as time has gone on they have become more hurtful. Last Thanksgiving was a disaster. I had ham dangled in my face with oinking noises, turkey thrown on my plate over the rest of my food, and was made fun of. One of my uncles repeatedly called my decision stupid and was asking me why I chose it, and when I say that it's my choice,not his, and that I don't call him stupid for eating meat, he just kept saying that he thought I was smarter than that. He kept pushing it until my other uncle finally made him drop it. My cousins then harassed me about it and rubber turkey and ham on my face until I started screaming and crying. Every family event is.....
2007-11-18 03:43:57 · 6 answers · asked by The Broken Doll 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
like that, it always has been. They have always made fun of me for something, every since I was little. I'm a non confrontational person and never bring up my vegetarianism or beliefs, they do. I just sit in the corner quietly eating my mashed potatoes and roll. They also make fun of my dog, calling her ugly, stupid, and saying that I was stupid for getting her. What can I do? I've tried politely asking them to stop, getting my mom to intervene, and every other thing I could think of. They only do it when my mom isn't in the room or she rips them apart for ganging up on me. I don't want to stay with her the entire time, but I think it's my only option.
2007-11-18 03:47:03 · update #1
It gets to the point where I'm crying locked in an extra bedroom, my mom is mad at everyone for treating me like that, my uncle that supports my choice is yelling at my other uncle and cousins, and my brother leaves, walking to the gas station down the street to have his girlfriend pick him up because he can't stand the chaos. Last year I did go home early and was crying for a good hour once I got to my room and locked the door.
2007-11-18 03:56:32 · update #2
I live in Kentucky. My uncle that supports me is a chef and has taught me how to make many dishes, and this year Thanksgiving is at out house, so I have the option of locking my bedroom door. I'm making some vegetarian dishes for me this year.
2007-11-18 03:59:28 · update #3
It's time you get confrontational!! You are in the midst of a bunch of rude, ignorant people. At the very first thing someone does, say in a stern voice "STOP IT. All of you, listen to me. You are my family. I love you but you have been very rude to me and disrespectful and I have had enough. If you cannot treat me the way you would like to be treated, then don't even notice that I'm here. I will not tolerate one more rude remark from any of you. A family is supposed to be loving and supportive and a place of safety. If you can't do that for me, then I feel sorry for all of you but enough is enough!! "
Then very quietly go about eating your food. If they don't have the decency to apologize and change their ways, I would not be at any more family functions.
2007-11-18 03:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It IS your only option to stay close to your mom. This is a very sick family and I feel so sad that you have to endure a day like that. It is abuse. Would it be good for you to show your parents what you have written here?You say they respect you but if they did why would they make you go to that group? I mean do they understand the horror of it ? I mean if I were a parent and read what you just wrote there is absolutely NO way I would take a child of mine into that situation. Instead I would have a quiet dinner at home with just your small immediate family. Do you live in California? If you do I would be surprised since there are so many vegetarian restaurants and no one eats anything which had a face. It is totally accepted that when one has a party there is always a vegetarian dish for those who do not eat meat. What you wrote makes me think you are in a different culture and world like the Middle East where if someone steals something they get their hand cut off. I would love to have a Child Protective Service authority be present when your uncles do this to you to protect you if your parents will not keep you out of that arena of abuse that is called your Thanksgiving dinner. You can show them what I wrote if you think it will help. God Bless you and when you are grown may you find many vegetarian friends to share a meal with. Come to California!!!!!
2007-11-18 03:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can pick your nose...but you can't pick your family.
If they continue to commit acts of aggression against you then just explain to them that it is a choice that you made for yourself and it has nothing to do with them. If they can't respect you then you will have to walk away from having a relationship with them.
It's pretty amazing to me that the adults at the table (especially your parents) are not respecting you by backing up your decision and not allowing this behavior. They are showing signs of desrespect by not standing by you when the others are harrassing you. Stand your ground. If someone assaults you; by pushing food in your face or on your plate, leave the table and go wait in the car. Tell your parents that your disappointed in the disrespect and will no longer tolerate it.
2007-11-18 03:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 08:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well #1 Try to convince your family that your beliefs dont cange you as a person and you r still there flesh and blood keep your head up and worry more about you and try not to think about what people think of you but what u think of yourself if u dont it will only drive you crazy #2 try 2 make some suggestions on meals that you would have them prepare make needs kno but until then just make sure you have a fly outfit
2007-11-18 03:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.Thang 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol same here my familys always blabberin about crap that doesnt even matter
2007-11-18 03:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋