Well. My mom has this boyfriend, and he makes her really happy and im glad. but she is ALWAYS with him. she's barley home anymore. and i dont tell her it bothers me because well, when she's not home we dont fight, and he makes her happy and she deserves to be happy. but she still needs to realize that her kids should be her top priority. and i never get to hang out with my friends because im not allowed to have people over when she's not home and when she is home she's like no i dont want people over. how can i tell her she needs to rethink what she's doing? I dont want to get in another screaming fit like last time.
2007-11-18 03:25:26 · 9 answers · asked by Angie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try talking to your mother about this when you two are having one of your better moments. This is just an example, but maybe while you're doing the dishes strike up a pleasant conversation about something CLOSE to what you'd like to talk to her about. GENTLY lead her to where you want her to go, and then Gently bring the conversation up. DON'T TELL HER THAT SHE NEEDS TO DO ANYTHING! She is the parent. But GENTLY (I stress gently) get your point across to her. This just may work. Good luck, hon!
2007-11-18 10:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Poopsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know a person that is going through the same thing but sadly her mom addressed the situation by getting angry and saying that she can't be understood that she was happy, but maybe your mom is more understanding so i say to address this situation by showing her that you need her and miss her. If you have a close relationship with your mom to tell her when you two are alone and sort of ask for an advise from her like there is a boy you like something like that or pretend that you are worried about something sort of make something up , then when she answers you give her a hug and say thank you and something like i 've been meaning to ask you but i see that you are so happy and didn't want to bother you with my problems i 've missed talking to you mom (of course if you have that type of relationship with her) then you might want to bring something up that you haven't done together in a long time something that the two of you had fun and hint that you two need to spend more time together. that is all i can say I haven't tried it myself but that is the way i would approach it well good luck and hopefully she gets the message and doesn't get mad
2007-11-18 03:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by batgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time she is home, walk up to her and give her a hug. Say "Mom, I'm so glad you've found someone who makes you happy. I'm glad he's good to you. But I miss having special times when it's just you and me, doing things together, spending time together. I love you and wish I could have you all to myself once in awhile."
2007-11-18 03:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell your mom you're pissed at her, you simply ask her to spend more time with you and do some fun stuff. Ha ha....you can also find a pic that shows you and your mom together and display it. When you hear her coming...hold and look at the pic on the frame and who knows, out of her curiosity, she will ask "what's that?". You may answer "I miss you mom".
2007-11-18 03:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really dont feel like you and mom dont hang out or talk like you used to just sit her down when her boyfriend is gone and calmy talk to her and ask her if you guys can hang out more often I'm sure she will understand.
2007-11-18 09:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by slim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her who's more important, a b/f or her kids. Sure she will get angry, but somebody has to make her realize she is neglecting her children. Show her you are more mature than her. And yes, her kids should be her priority.
Sorry, there's not much to say. But it hurts me when I know kids screaming for mommy and mommy is hoe ring around with guys other than hers kids father.
2007-11-18 03:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to her in a nice way. that is the only way. if she doesn't accept anything you say..then you can't do anything about it anymore. time will just let her realize what she's been doing. because one thing's for sure, the things she does now will have it's consequences later on.
2007-11-18 03:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by avon_manu1009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a single parent of three.If one of my kids came to me and said hey mom I need more time from you????
Excuse me.....I would have listened.No one comes before the kids NOT EVER!! NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES
2007-11-18 03:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by uptoyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to spend more time with her.then definitely she can know ur prominence.reason may be that she feels alone.so try spendin more time with her.
2007-11-18 03:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by bangaloreprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋