better to be prepared and ready than not
2007-11-18 03:19:58 · 12 answers · asked by Moore55 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
this question is especially for soldiers currently in Iraq, what did you do regarding this issue before you deployed, and for the people who are about to deploy/will eventually deploy.
thank you
2007-11-18 03:24:23 · update #1
babe, we all hope for the best but we must prepare for the worst as well.
2007-11-18 03:26:34 · update #2
upthcrek, i would think issues regarding a will, financial properties and immediate family must be prepared and thought out before deploying
2007-11-18 03:28:20 · update #3
Most of your answers are correct (the first 2 atleast) but children need to be considered also. I had nightmares because I went through so many scenarios to consider the best way to tell them if it happens. Yes you hope for the best but how these children are told can determine the extent of their grief.
In addition to the other suggestions this scenario is one my husband and I discussed on numerous occasions! I tried to convince him we would make it because we're a military family. He was more worried about us being prepared than him, he had already accepted this possibility for himself.
Thankfully, we never had to face that situation. I know alot of people that prepared but when the time came the thinking isn't so clear anymore.
Whatever you and your family decide HAS TO BE IN WRITING this way things can still be handled according to your wishes without the family having to try and remember what was discussed in addition to the grieving process.
Prior to deployments though, there are many meetings for the solders and families that help them prepare for things they may have not considered.
Hope this helps!
2007-11-18 03:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by Georgia Peach 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
While it is not mandatory that a deploying member of the armed forces, it really should be. Fill out a will and power of attonery at your base/fort/post legal office. You can even do it while you are deployed too. State in your will what you want done with your remanes. This was a huge issue 2-3 years back when a soldier died and the parrents were divorsed and they were battling in court on where the body was going to be barried. Now one wants that heart ache for their surviving realtives.
Now if you deploy and dont do the above, it defaults to whatever your state law determines as your next of kin. Typically this defaults to your wife, children, father, then mother. Though, like I said, this varries state to state.
Now for the flipside. What happens if there is a death back home and you are deployed? Inform your family prior to deployment how to contact the Red Cross and leave them a good phone number to your rear detachment unit (Those that dont deploy) so that in case of a life and death emergency, they can get the message out to you, and you can come home for emergency leave till the situation is over.
Best of luck to you bud and hopefully neither you or your realitives have to go through any hardship. Stay safe and keep your head down.
2007-11-18 10:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by B. Wags 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Preparing your will is simply part of your 'pre-deployment' paperwork. Not a big deal. As for your mind, Son, that can get you in trouble. if you leave here thinking you won't return, chances are, you won't. If, on the other hand, you leave with the certainty that you will return, you can pretty much bet that you will. There are no absolutes, no guarantees of either of them happening. But the mind is a powerful thing, and it can take you places and cause things to happen that you would not believe. Get in a positive frame of mind, be determined to come home, and bring your buddies with you. Prayers are with you and your fellow soldiers, and families.
2016-05-24 02:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is getting ready to go to Iraq. Even before we found out about this deployment, we talked about unexpected death. Anyone can die at anytime, its always good to cover your bases as soon as possible. We've got medical directives, a will, written funeral arrangements. We've discussed what to do with life insurance. We've talked to his family and my family in case I'm incapacitated if he dies and vice versa. Someone doesn't have to be going to war to be prepared for accidental death.
2007-11-18 11:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by Denise S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is deploying in February. We've discussed funeral arrangements and DNR status, power of attorney, feeling about amputations and being a vegetable. It's a difficult discussion, but we'd rather know exactly what his wishes are.
2007-11-18 03:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
How would you prepare for your death in the states. Just keep in mind that when your time is up it's up. The three fates can be cruel and un-just or they can be fair and reasonable.
Vet-USAF
I answered you; you do the same as here in the states, I guess I have to line it out for everyone, sorry.
2007-11-18 03:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by ฉันรักเบ้า 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
You are not thinking in getting into the Army or anything are you? I can't be left a widow with this 8 months pregnacy and ten other children to take care of!
2007-11-18 03:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by Bella 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
extremely tough issue. query on yahoo. this may help!
2014-11-12 20:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um....ever give any thought to perhaps that you will be coming home in good health as the extreme vast majority actually do?
2007-11-18 03:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 7⤋
If you plan for something, however unanticipated, then it is not unexpected, now, is it?
2007-11-18 03:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by correrafan 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋