So, you are against marriage between two adults of the same sex?

Question

Presumable for religious reasons, but different approaches are welcome here, as well.

Whether you go out to protest, agree with others, write papers, talk to children about why gay marriage is bad ... you are not always quiet about your views and leave others be.

After you have read this, can you please give me one single reason for why you still believe you should actively go against gay marriage, be it in form of words (spoken or written) or deeds?

1) Being gay is not natural. Real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, liposuction and air conditioning.

2) Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.

3) Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.

4) Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn't changed at all; women are still property, blacks still can't marry whites, and divorce is still illegal.

5) Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed; the sanctity of Brittany Spears' 55-hour just-for-fun marriage would be destroyed.

6) Straight marriages are valid because they produce children. Gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn't be allowed to marry because our orphanages aren't full yet, and the world needs more children.

7) Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.

8) Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That's why we have only one religion in America.

9) Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That's why we as a society expressly forbid single parents to raise children.

10) Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms. Just like we haven't adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans ...

Wow. Interesting replies. I thought the question ("Give me a reason why you would still be against gay marriage") was not answered by most.

And I DID think the irony was obvious! Women still property? Elderly not being alowed to marry? Sorry?

Answer 1

You won't stop the anti-gay brigade.

They are scared of being outbred by gay couples. Yes, work it out...

All the same things were said about Jews and blacks before, but even the Christians decided to be 'PC' about that after Hitler.

But homosexuality, they believe, is still fair game in the 'any argument will do as long as it's anti-gay' stakes....


As one answerer said:

"but the point of marriage is to have children, something gays can't do, so I am against it."

So I guess you'll be waving a placard around calling for banning the elderly, the infertile, and intersexuals from marrying their intended?

(crickets...)

Religionists thinks their religion gives them immunity to defame and slander individuals for the simple fact of gender orientation. Certainly in the US and Islam it seems that way...

Leave us alone. Go pick another sin to hate with the same furore. Go on 'anti-sloth' hate parades. All sins are equal, right?

So go make 'sloth' illegal. Surely sloth is more prevailent that homosexuality?

Leave the gay-hate to the Nazis.


Fair enough?

Answer 2

yes...because if we allow the sanctity of marriage to be changed then other weird changes will come about, but I have no problem with gay folks entering into a binding contract, just not called marriage....

I don't think it encourages "homosexuality" you are either homosexual or you are not...

I mean a religious ceremony for gay people should be a personal decision but not necessarily effect the courts...because if it is just like marriage then they will have to follow the same laws for divorce, and many gay people might not want to divide things etc.

I don't think children should be taught anything regarding "gay marriage" because some of those children might be gay and then they will internalize that, one of my friend's sons is gay and when he would hear people say things about gay people when he was young he would get all sad inside because he knew from a very young age he was "different" and he suspected at age 8 he was gay...and he was right...so, I would prefer not to scare children with hate filled messages that if they grow up different this world is going to be hateful toward them, they will learn that soon enough....

the whole gay marriage thing is really big on debate right now...and I don't know what could be done to please everyone...

Answer 3

"Would you kiss a gay man on the lips?"

Sure! I have before. This may surprise you, but it didn't turn me gay.

""but the point of marriage is to have children, something gays can't do, so I am against it."

So I guess you'll be waving a placard around calling for banning the elderly, the infertile, and intersexuals from marrying their intended?

(crickets...)"

Heh heh - Bajingo, you rock.

What about me? My husband had a vasectomy before we ever got married. However, when we went to get our marriage license they failed to ask us whether we were both fertile. Nobody said, "Now, you two are going to procreate and have lots and lots of babies, right? Because that's what this piece of paper is all about."

After reading this entire thread, I have to say that the asker achieved her goal of showing the anti-gay brigade that once logic shoots all their "societal" and "secular" reasons full of holes, the only thing they have to fall back on that supports their denial of equal rights is their religious beliefs. Sorry, this is still a secular country - you can't make a law that is based solely on religion around these here parts.

I'm also going to go on record as stating that I'm all for plural marriages as well, so long as all parties in the marriage are adults and do so of their own free will. To each his own! What they choose to do in their relationships doesn't effect me and is none of my business, so long as nobody is being harmed. And if they want to have a legal contract between several people instead of two, then they should go for it.

"because if it is just like marriage then they will have to follow the same laws for divorce, and many gay people might not want to divide things etc."

Lol - what?

Answer 4

Many people have come on here with the answer "You can't change the minds of ignorant fundamentalists by using logic."

Personally, I believe you can. It has been done before. I am in no way saying that the world is perfect, but things in history have certainly changed for the better: slavery has been abolished, suffrage gave women the right to vote, forced child labour has been made illegal. I believe that one day the prejudices currently held among a large number of people against homosexuals will be reduced to a much smaller number. Things are (slowly) going the right way. The people fighting on the side of equal rights for homosexuals will eventually win the battle, I'm sure: its just common sense that we all have equal rights!

Black people had Martin Luther King Jr.
Feminists had Emmeline Pankhurst.

I'm sure one day an iconic figure will lead the way in changing the prejudices against gays, lesbians and bisexuals. Alfred Kinsey has probably come closest in the past.

But I'm sorry to say... the world will never be perfect. But it can get better!

PS. I am a straight, white man, but I prefer to think of myself as a human being... just like King, Pankhurst and Kinsey, and every other man, woman, black, white, brown, red, yellow, straight, gay, young or old person out there.

Answer 5

My wife and I are an interracial couple, and there was a time when that would have stirred up as much trouble as gay couples stir up in society now. Even today, we still get occasional stares and assumptions made about us.

There is a natural fear of change that humans have. The more comfortable they are with their station in life, the more inclined they will be to want to preserve it. At a certain point, that extends to a societal level. By keeping things as stable as possible, they ensure that they are able to maintain their comfort level. Of course, being comfortable doesn't always mean being rich or leading a comfortable life. There are different kinds of comfort. There is comfort with an understood set of rules regarding how one should be and act, and the more comfortable someone is with those, the less inclined they are to accept people who work outside of them.

There are a few spots in the Bible where homosexual acts are said to be sinful. There are lots of things said to be sinful in the Bible, and many of them are mostly ignored or laughed off by the same people who decry gay marriage as being wrong. The great thing about the Bible is that it says so much, you can use it to support almost anything you want just by selecting the right passages.

But what it really comes down to, I think, is that people feel threatened by change.

Answer 6

I have no opinion on this matter as it doesn't affect me, and I don't think I should have to or be able to tell people what to do with their lives. That being said, I think that if people called it something different, something without using the word "marriage" then people would stop making the comparison because they wouldn't feel as though their marriage was being threatened. Why do people feel threatened like that? I have no idea. But with a compromise like that I think everyone would be happy but neither side seems willing to back down enough to compromise.

Answer 7

Simple view: God created Adam & Eve. Marriage is intended for man & woman. At the later stage to grow into a family. The happiness of having children that will keep the family together and fullfillment of life and satisfaction.
Nothing against with gay people. They have unique feeling towards same opposite sex. Fine. They can be together. No problem. But don't think of getting married. It's absurd.

Answer 8

Well, it is very common, but still fits. God did not create Adam and Steve, but Adam and Eve.

Second, it is disgusting

Third, gays brag about it. Why ?
A gay wrote once in the newspaper: "what I do in my bedroom is my business"
Well, that makes sense, but then, gays must go and tell everyone that they love to have another man up their outlet.

Why do they do that ? Nobody wants to know whether you get in bed with men, women, dogs, horses, or some other thing. It is your business, keep it that way.
Nobody else wants to know

Answer 9

Hehe, a girl in my summer speech class listed these reasons, funny stuff.
Personally, I am a Christian and a-okay with gay marriage. What happens behind closed doors is none of my business.

Answer 10

All citizens of the United States have the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Why should gay people be denied their rights? They should have the same opportunity all other citizens the U.S. have. So the only way this question should be considered is on a citizenry level, not a religious one.