I have known this guy for over two years. We worked together abroad and became really close and then became lovers. He went home and I stayed there but every time I came home we spent alot of time together and he was always saying that when I came back he wanted us to give it a go. I got back a month ago and we've seen alot of each other. Then I invited him over for a meal for my birthday. My mum and her boyf we coming. He said he couldn't as he had plans with his parents but he didn't call or even text to wish me happy birthday until the next day. A few days later he came over with a massive bouquet saying what a fool he'd been. On Saturday we were supposed to go for a date he said, since we going to start "dating" which we skipped since we have been friends so long. He forgot but was v apologetic the next day. Last night he called to say he wants a relationship but to take it slowly . I fell that if he did think i was so amazing he wouldn't keep letting me down. What should I do?
2007-11-18 02:36:06 · 26 answers · asked by Daisy Chain 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We now work at the same place again although are on different teams. To be honest i'm crazy about him and feel lke no-one understands me like he does. I'd like to give it a go but don't want to risk getting hurt and now I'm not so sure he feels the same way about me that I do about him. He wants me to think about whether I want to give a go and then we are meeting Sunday to discuss it.
2007-11-18 02:41:02 · update #1
if he did it once, he'll do it again
move forward and let him see what he messed up
2007-11-18 02:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay let's see. He forgot your birthday, then forgot he had a date with you, now he wants to take it slow. Any slower and it'll stop! What more proof do you need? He is not into you and you need to move on.
If a man cannot even call you when he says or remember a date that he has with you, he is sending you a clear message. These are important steps in building a relationship and he missed the boat. Keep sailing and move on to greater shores! You deserve better! Good luck! :)
2007-11-18 02:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on ladies, you need to give us guys a little breathing room. Quit being so pushy. You act like because you wined and dined a little, that marriage is just around the corner. Guys do not think that way. Take things slowly, watch a a game of football with the guy a few times. If a lady wants to really see what her man is going to be like, just sit and watch sports with him a few times.
2007-11-18 02:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by velocityfirst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,you certainly deserve more of an effort than you've been getting, but he may have a bit of nerves getting in the way (conveniently occurring when it's time to meet family members). Taking things slowly is fine, wise even, but don't get in the habit of accepting substandard behavior, or the bar will remain low and that''s all you'll ever get.
2007-11-18 02:41:59 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has cold feet about taking this to the next level and is being immature about how he's reacting to his feelings. Give him one more chance but only after letting him know that if he stands you up again that's it. If you're willing to take it slow let him know...this may help calm some of his fears. Open communication is the keystone to ANY good relationship be it friends, lovers or more.
2007-11-18 02:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how much you like this guy, if you're not that bothered the leave him but if you think there is future with you two then go on a date and see how it goes. Whatever you do don't let him 'forget' another date!
2007-11-18 02:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him and let him know that you feel like he is treating you badly and that he is yanking you around and that it hurts and that you dont know if you can trust him and if he really wants to be back with you then he needs to show you that you can trust him and that he is realiable becuz you dont deserve to have your emotions toyed with... try that and if he doesnt have a decent response and doesnt show that he's realible then move on
2007-11-18 02:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
very immature.. he is not determined himself.. the more you stay with him, you'll get a load of bullshit ahead i think.. well, the best way to do.. give him only one chance to behave properly.. and dont let your feelings or he fools you.. be with him but stay out with the 'love' thingy.. becouse, you'll never knew when he is serious with you... he played you once, now let u gain control over him and be the player !!
2007-11-18 02:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by van lemot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he might of got a bit freaked out from having to meet your mum (parents) because he wants to take it slow. he might of thought that you would be expecting marraige or something if he ment the parents.
give him another chance, it's worth a shot if you really like him
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2007-11-18 02:42:36 · answer #9 · answered by Hey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question sweetie...if he does think your relationship could be or is so amazing, then why is he constantly letting you down. I think it's time for you too move on. I don't think he really wants to commit to you.
2007-11-18 02:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by Racer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confusing Or What!!
I Think he does like you, but doesnt want to be hurt. Bless,this is wellute
Good luck
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2007-11-18 02:39:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋