My ex girlfriends son whom I raised him for 12 years when he was young, had a terrible gun accident and has been killed. He's an adult and have not really stayed in touch for the last couple of years. Other than condolences to the family how would you handle the situation. I am remarried and raising another stepchild whom is 17 any suggestions. I want to be respectful to his family, but also to my present situation?
2007-11-18 00:18:58 · 9 answers · asked by eaglescout 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First, I want to express my condolences. Although it may not seem like it now, you played a huge roll in your ex girlfriend's son's life! It is okay to be sad and express feeling toward this situation. I am sure your current family will understand this. I think it is important that you attend the services, offer your condolences etc. No matter what, they were a part of your life and I really don't think it is a good idea to ignore it!
2007-11-18 00:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by juneejunebug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your present situation should be respectful of YOU. He was a part of your life- and biologically or not, he was your child.
Grieve. Go to the funeral. Do what you have to do. If your current wife and step child get angry about it, then that's their issue to deal with. You've got bigger things to worry about.
My condolences to YOU for the loss of your child (it doesn't matter how old he was or who's DNA he shared).
2007-11-18 00:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason for you not to go to the funeral since he was part of your life for many years and your current family should understand that. If you feel you may not be welcome at the funeral if things ended badly with the ex then just send flowers and a card of condolences.
2007-11-18 00:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a sign of respect, and since this young men, once, became a part of your life, i see no problem. Go, attend to his funeral. If your present family aware of your past, they could understand you're just symphatizing for his loss.
2007-11-18 00:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by jmjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any expressions of condolences you make should be well-received and in no way disrespectful to your current situation. Did you have some grander gesture in mind?
2007-11-18 00:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was a part of ur life ur entitled togreive deal with it how ufeel u should........it doesn't matter who gets upset u have todo what's right for u
xx
2007-11-18 00:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send flowers and a 'with sympathy card' expressing your sorrow for their loss and leave it at that.
2007-11-18 00:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by trebs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with all the answers here !! Very sorry for your loss . xx
2007-11-18 00:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by Jillinegypt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was practically your child... go to the funeral both parties would understand...
2007-11-18 02:34:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋