Hi, Answers. I'm going out with a girl of 20. We are not "exclusive", I ever told her that I don't consider us like a couple, (with the natural rules of a couple) but only like two guys seeing each others and also do sex staff. I ever told her that i'm not jelous and that she can do what she wants with other guys.
But now she told me that she did, and part of the reason, is that this boy she went, has got a big Willy...
I'm quite hurted, I did not supposed to be, she keep tellin' that she cares a lot for me, she was drunk and now she is feeling guilty.
I thought she was special and I was planning to ask her, to became an "official" couple, but after this episode, obiuvsly I changed my mind, and I don't know what to do with her and I'm confused with my feelings, I don't know if she's honest when says that cares for me....
I thought also, to carry on like that, seeing each others like before,like nothing happened, is half my fault,because I ever said: "You can go with who you want"
2007-11-17 23:20:13 · 15 answers · asked by "Poeta x" 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Or maybe, anyway is better to stop for a while, and try to go out with someone else, for try to build a real relationship.....
She's also on answers,(I introduced her here), but this doesn't really matters.....
2007-11-17 23:24:22 · update #1
all your fault buddy, I can't help her enjoying my willy more, she also said you have never made her cu.
Just think whenever she isn't with you she's round mine getting the banging of her life.
2007-11-17 23:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
generally when a guy claims this "non-exclusivity" clause in a relationship, he's more or less claiming the freedom to do whatever *he* wants to do outside that relationship. trouble is, you never think it could be used against you.
now you are full of doubts about her because you "don't know if she's honest"... well, let me tell you one thing, I think the last thing you can accuse her of is lack of honesty. she even was a little too honest for her own good, telling you so many revealing details about this other guy... but couldn't she be trying to make you understand that it's time your relationship moves one step forward, otherwise she could have plenty of other, better (in one way or another) guys to choose from?
you are now "tasting your own medicine", and you don't like it. it's up to you now: you have three possible answers to give her: choose the one that seems to fit better (or feel free to combine them to get one more suitable):
1) I have been a fool. even though I did what I wanted with other girls, I never seriously thought that you could do the same with other boys. now I know how much it hurts. I want to go serious with you, will you still take me?
2) I am a fool. even though I did what I wanted with other girls, I never seriously thought that you could do the same with other boys, and the fact that I can't get over it just shows what an idiot I am. in fact, perhaps I'm too much of an idiot for you. you don't deserve me.
3) I am a fool. even though I never did anything with any other girl, I kept saying that bullsh*t about "being free" just in case I could get a chance with some other girl. I never did--YOU did. and that's what hurts me the most.
2007-11-18 18:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Andreina L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...
i didnt want to answer on here so i'll ask you to check my blog for how i feel. follow andreina's(sorry for spellmistakesx) advice so we can get on with whatever we are/will become.
If "she" didn't care about you then she would have left you 3months ago when the relationship between the 2 of you became 3. She wouldn't stay with you when your body and mind are out of use. she wouldn't even think about you if your **** wasn't inside her but she does and she doesn't know why because she probably does deserve better...
EDIT: shut up "blockheed/head" whatever.
2007-11-21 14:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by harmony... a lustre in its sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be annoyed with her at that...you told her she could do what she wants with other people...did you also sleep with other women? Get over it. If you want to be with her then cut the crap and just be together. There is no way you can build a good long term relationship if you allow eachother to sleep with other people.
2007-11-18 07:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Cornish_Pasty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems you wanted the freedom to sleep with whoever you wanted, and it was only fair that you afforded her the same courtesy. Now that she's done it, you don't like it. How would she have felt if you had done the same? It's your own fault. Deal with it.
2007-11-18 07:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by artyfartyparty 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it was your fault she slept with the guy
because you gave her approval
so get over it and ask her out
2007-11-21 21:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by yea. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry mate but I lost the will to live after 'Hi'.
2007-11-18 07:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by Blokheed 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop messing about either you want her or you don't, time to make your mind up.
2007-11-18 09:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Rainbowz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST date the girl!
Seems that you do have feelings for her...else you may regret it not dating her.
2007-11-18 07:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi poeta x
my advice;; stay friends;;; =0)
2007-11-18 07:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋