Well I'm guessing so as it's so hard to get her to comit some time to do stuff with me ie try dresses on look at florist thought it would be nice to do these things together think I'm gonna have to put the pressure on and say I'll get someone else to go with me but as she is my only bridesmaid you think she would enjoy it
Anybody else having problems with their friends?
2007-11-17 21:10:52 · 16 answers · asked by Tulip 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I had that problem....and I was short one bridesmaid at my ceremony. I feel if you are not being Bridezilla and taking over the world with your wedding, only trying to plan the thing, and she is not cooperating, she doesn't want/need to be in your wedding. I got fed up with my "closest friend" a month before the wedding and l kicked her out of MY wedding. It is YOUR day, so tell her shape up, or ship out.
2007-11-17 21:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is she in college? It's hard to be a part of a wedding if you have studies. My wife was supposed to be her sister's maid of honor.
She couldn't fullfill the duties because of school and so she graciously stepped down right away. So there were no problems. It was cool.
You're not being a bridezilla are you?
Simply ask her if she can do what has to be done. If she can't then ask her if it's ok that you pick another maid of honor. That way everything's cool.
2007-11-19 11:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"she's just jelous".....is code for "I'm being a bridezilla".
Your bridesmaids job is not to go with you to every appointment and spend hours debating if you should have roses or tulips, or if the linens should be peach or cream? Her job is to show up on wedding day, help things go smoothly, sign the license and possibly help afterwards getting the gifts back where they are supposed to go. Accepting the postion doesn't mean she is your personal whipping girl until the wedding!
Its not HER wedding. Its yours. After wedding day her life is going right back to normal and just because the wedding is the center of your universe right now doesn't mean everybody else is going to drop their responsibilties. If you want someone on call to give advice on all your decisions then hire a wedding planner.
2007-11-18 02:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I didn't have any issues as I chose the right person, a friend that I could rely on 100%. Perhaps your friend has something going on in her life right now that is distracting her, yes your wedding day is important but life does not stop just because she is in your wedding, maybe she has other things on her mind as well? I find it sad that people talk of "sacking" their friends, they are not your staff for goodness sake!
2007-11-18 18:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like perhaps you are being a little overly demanding. A day of trying on dresses is one thing, but your friend shouldn't have to be involved with every tiny detail. Just think about what is most important to you and try to have your fiance help with more things instead of your attendant.
2007-11-18 13:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by muriel12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've seen so many bad bridesmaids... it's disgusting the drama that happens behind the scenes with so many weddings.
that was why i chose against bridesmaids and MOH all together. I didn't want any stress or crap.
be direct and ask her "if you want to be my MOH i need more support from you. If you'd rather be a guest at the wedding that's okay with me, but i want my MOH to be more supportive and reliable".
2007-11-17 23:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by chilly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, don't get me started! I have had nothing but problems with mine. Luckily, one of the bad ones got replaced (my doing) by a way better and more excited friend. The other one just doesn't ever want to talk to me about it, or, if I bring it up...the convo gets put onto her wedding (already over) somehow. Just try to talk to her. If not,see if you can round up one of your gal pals to go with you. She may not be your MOH, but atleast she'll be excited for you and willing to help out. Good luck!
2007-11-18 09:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by jessiekarma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you go hiring and firing, just consider that this is YOUR wedding; not hers. No matter how happy she is for you, she has no obligation to get excited about picking out flowers for your wedding. Her job as MOH is to stand up next to you-- not, as some mistakenly believe, to throw you a shower, to handle your mini-crisis, or help you with the details (all very nice, but not required).
2007-11-18 01:13:31 · answer #8 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
at the moment this event is the most important time in ur life dnt spend it on whos ur best friends and wholl help out. ur friend should be able to do it themselves not cause havoc for ya. talk to her in case she has some problems in her life which would be justifiable i guess but if shes just mucking about tell her to get out and repace her asap. these little things woill spoil ur day so just sort it asap.
2007-11-18 22:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by lovely g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Glad to hear i am not the only one having problems with bridesmaids. Just tell her if she wants to be part of your wedding then she needs to do these things with you. Good luck.
2007-11-17 23:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by Bombshell 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋