I’m dating my colleague 2 months ago, everything happens so fast, were just normal friends and co-worker before and we are not that close…. & then he started to call me and ask me out, at first I always turn him down coz I’m not attracted w/ him…But then I realize why don’t give it a try as I’m single and getting bored with my life.. Were going out every weekend and enjoys each others company. We are not officially on and nobody from the company knows about us so we are really formal in the office as if nothing is going on between us. Suddenly everything change, were not going out anymore…I ask him at least a reason why is this happening and he told me that he’s very busy with his masteral class and at the same time working in the office. I know I cannot demand anything to him because we are not committed. I decided to just leave him alone for him to concentrate with his priorities.…but of course I cannot deny the fact that I will still see him everyday at work …I slowly fall in love with this guy and this is killing me… Now I’m starting to move on and sent him an e-mail for the last time just to have a closure on what we have, I want piece of mind & at least be friends like we are before, but he replied to me and telling me to still hold on until he finishes his masteral. I’m really desperate, shall I continue this or just let him go, I didn’t see any effort from him to work things out. Please advise me..
2007-11-17 20:30:25 · 7 answers · asked by Freelancer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like he's playing games to me.
you've done the right thing to approach him about it and letting him know how you feel.
try again and see what's what, after all if he cares for you at all he can at least give you some time to explain why he's being a dick.
failing this, then let go and be confident in yourself and don't let him know anything has bothered you.
all the best with this.
2007-11-17 20:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say let him go. Sounds like you can't wait for him to finish his masteral (not sure what that is or how long it takes). If you could wait for him, then you wouldn't need to be asking for advice on whether you should wait for him. Since you're asking, we gotta assume that you don't really want to be with him if he's not going to make you a priority, which is fair. Bes thing to do is talk to him. Don't make it ulimatium, because then he'll end up regretting either his life or your life. Just talk about how you feel.
2007-11-18 04:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need more than that. If he is not willing to commit, let him know that you are not waiting and may not be around for him when he is finally done. Then try to move on. It will be hard because you still see him at the office, but try not to communicate with him at all outside of work. He will either wake up and realize what he is missing or remain clueless.
2007-11-18 04:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If your age can allow you to wait for him for a little while, and that your feelings for him is so intense that you are willing to wait, then, give him the time he wanted. But if after finishing his materal, he doesn't make any move again, just let him go and go on with your life.
2007-11-18 04:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by dol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carry on like before you two started going out. When he starts missing what it was, he should come back and be more attentive. If he doesn't, you've lost nothing by just carrying on.
2007-11-18 04:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on at least until he gets thru dealing with his and only if hes worth it. he has no right to tell you to hold on go about your life and if its tru then yall will make up if not then another life experience good luck
2007-11-18 04:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by John C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not leave him and wait until his priorities are settled
2007-11-18 04:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by gaara35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋