Although I have gone on maybe two dates in my entire life, I feel that it may be time to give it a try again now that I will have some more time. I haven't tried it since I was 23 years old about 5 years ago. It's pretty scary getting back into the "game" but it is kind of exciting as well. I still have a lot to look forward to: my first girlfriend, my first kiss etc. While some people tell me I have started much too late, I have so much more to look forward to than they do. I also have a lot to offer a woman! I am employed full time, I am educated, I am secure financially and I live at home with my parents and other adult siblings, which indicates that I am a family man :-) . The question I have though is this: Why do I encounter so much jealousy regarding my situation? More people actually mock it than respect it. I don't want praise but I don't understand the mockery, especially from girls my age. Clearly they are jealous for some reason or they wouldn't make the comments.
2007-11-17 19:42:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1) Although you show positive attributes in your current situation, dating is much easier when the cord from the parents have been cut.
2) You want to date adult women who don't want to date your family while they are dating you. If you have to answer to a family it's like dating a married man. You need freedom to date & it's not usually perceived when you have to call & check in at home.
3) If you are successful they will wonder why you haven't struck out on your own. If you haven't been independant how can they know you are responsible & financially stable? You've never tried it. Could you keep the house clean & fend for yourself are huge things at a dating stage.
4) At your age it isn't mocking. They are very legit points when one is choosing a life mate & possibly the father of their children.
5) Start dating but make it casual starts when out if you can. Be honest but don't highlight your current living situation until you need to.
6) If you are questioning then you are ready.
Good luck!
2007-11-17 19:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by Nice one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure you are accurately interpreting their reactions to your never having dated. Maybe they aren't really jealous just amazed, or incredulous. People date to determine the kind of qualities they want in the one they will make a permanent committment to. It is kind of like practicing for the big game. You don't expect to just run out on the field the day of the game and score big....neither would you expect to wait until you were ready to settle down, and with no knowledge of what you want or what it is like to have a relationship with a woman, be able to immediately make a committment.
You are somewhat behind in the game. You have a lot to learn about relationships. You are about where a 16 year old is, and women your age expect more. Good luck.
2007-11-17 19:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start serious dating when you are ready to get married. Typically at age 28 you're ready, but it's up to you to decide. It's quite atypical for a 28-year-old man to have only gone on two dates before that I'm sure that people are reacting to the surprise of learning that.
2007-11-17 19:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a girl inspires you to want to be a better you.
don't take that as an insult but if you find someone you want be better for it can help smooth the transition and deal with the low parts of a relationship.
You also do need to move out it shows that you are not looking for someone to be your mom, that is how women see that. They are not jealous more than likely but wonder how you could still not be taking care of yourself. Their is also the point of how financially successful can you be if you still have no financial responsibility.
Good luck
2007-11-17 19:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by opal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At age 28 you are probably feeling the urge to find the right lady to start your family, so go for it. Don't let what other may say about you, because you have a lot to offer. Look for someone that share your family values, and an appreciation for decency.
2007-11-17 20:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by orangeknight69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mockery probably has a lot to do with the fact that guys like you don't exist anymore and that they wish they would've waited a little themselves. Don't stress though, you'll find someone.
2007-11-17 19:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by flutterfly_03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you turn 40
2007-11-17 19:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Where's Wally 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you waiting for? The longer you wait, the better chance someone else will get that special someone, and you'll loose her. Go get em!
2007-11-17 19:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they re not jealous. u re a loser. what kind of man lives with his family if he is employes full time?= where re u employed is also a big issue.
2007-11-17 19:48:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have started considering serious-type dating 5 years ago.
2007-11-17 19:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by ohsohot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋