what if your lover"bf" told you so?

Question

if he was travelling away for a period of time.
and told you that a girl is so emotionally attached to him,and in love with him,but this girl is about to have an open heart surgery in a month.
and they have been together as a dear friend for him,but as a lover for her.
and now he confessed to you,and told u that sometimes he really thought of engaging her,coz ohis powerful sensation of sympathy.and she's in deeeeep love with him.
he couldn't really tell her that he's in love with somebody else"you".
and this girl is fantastic and beautiful and funny,and she wouldn't bear if he told her the truth.

and he also doesn't know what to do for her?
he mistaked by makinh her attached to him,but without intend from him,but it already happenned.
what if he told her and then something bad happened to her?
and what about you yourself?
would you feel betrayed by him?
would u forgive him?
what to do

Answer 1

First ,Salem my friend and welcome back i missed you !
and for this question May God be with you !! this is drama really i cant say what iam thinking about or what ima feeling towards such a situation coz you may be confused after all these answers you got yes everyone said his point of view and sure they have messed it up and mixed all!!
for me what can say is that you should do your best to not loose your love however you should know and find out if he really loves you and he is fidel faithful and that his heart belongs only to you not to the other world
sympathy and love are not the same !!!but love and heart can never contains two women in the same time
he is confused !!kill him !!!yes someone who is confused of his emotions and unable to take a clear decision is not a strong man and he may fall down and commite stupid mistakes
he shouldnt bring near to her neither to have a dear friend while you are existing noway! you should be the only one in his life the only woman that domitates his life feelings and mind iam sorry it's his fault even if they are just friends nononononononono!!!!!! he made her fall in his love unfair he should tell her from the begging that his heart belongs to YOU and that he is already taken this the way fidel lover should do even if you live far from each other he should keep being attached only to you no place to an other woman no matter what kind of relationships gathers em !!! nonnononononono
iam sorry friend but this is logic
first he allowed an other woman to enter his life falling in his love then not telling her the truth about YOU then the DRAMA she is playing iam not kinda sure it's true what he is telling or what she is acting like a poor girl to win his attention and his heart girls like her do whatever they can to win guy's time and heart may be she has an idea about you and she is acting like she does nt know about you
how dares he to think about engaging her! HELLLLL he is afraid hse would die so he dares to make her fall stupidly in him
about the surgery be strong and let him continue his film till she recover and push him to not tell her but to avoid her and stop being with her
give him trust and courage and tell him that you believe him but also be careful he may be acting films on you BOTH
i still dont know wether he was honest with you by telling this from the begging or it was lately after he messed it up he came to tell you and dont know if he tells you about everything in his life and that you are in touch daily even if he lives in the moon coz this is the basic point why coz if you are so he would not find time to have an other story this your fault to leave him alone with free time and gaps you should fill in all his time so no way to think about an other even by sympathy noway!!!!!!

Answer 2

I would have to let him go hun, PERMANENTLY.

This is the logic that I am thinking:

He had always been seeing her but he is afraid to be alone if and when she drops dead. He has been using you to cover his bases because if he looses her he needs a fallback because obviously he cant stand to be alone.

I would not only feel betrayed, I would be SURE that I NEVER gave him another chance in this particular situation. His honesty should have been at the beginning of your association, not now, now when she is on the verge of getting surgery. AlSO it could just be a bunch of Bull intending to leave you but if you think he went away for a nobile cause you wont be so mad if his plans elsewhere dont work out and he will have an open door back into your heart....what a louse, RUUUUN in the other direction. You will find a good guy when you create a vacancy where this one used to sit. Take Care-Rachel.

Answer 3

wow! he has game...sounds like like a load of crap though. I wouldn't believe it. U have the right to be mad because if he wasn't rejecting her, he was accepting her...there are many scandalous people in the world who make up stories about how they are about to die just to "keep" or "trap" a person into a relationship...and yes I do know people like that and it is really sad. There's a difference between love and obsession and some people don't know where to draw the line....she sounds obsessed and if he doesn't love her, then he should not be with her... because we all are going to die one way or another.... if he chooses her, then its his lost, and u can definitely find someone more faithful to you.

Answer 4

trust him and let him travel with her for the operation once the other girl is successfully operated she may be informed of the actual position then and may be with a stonger repaired heart it is easy for her to understand the difference between love a symathy . And then you get back your love do trust him and have faith in him after disscussingthe things and other pros and cons at lenghth with him ,Probably in the present situation you dont have much choices either

Answer 5

First of all what are you asking? Second, why would you believe that line. Come get real you do not need that saga. Get out of that relationship and find a guy who is not hung up on drama. No I would not forgive him and Blue(the cat) says he sounds like a big bad wolf. Run little red riding hood run....

Answer 6

a million. i found out immediately that I would desire to pay for my first semester of school out of pocket. 2. i'm uncertain if i visit interrupt up with my boyfriend. 3. I nevertheless have not chanced on perfect finished time employment yet.

Answer 7

if u really love him
dont make to lose him
because if you are sincere in your love u deserve it back
and anyone have no place in the world of your love
but you and he only!!
dont think that you are selfish in this way!!
because true love is great than any sympathetic feelings
all the best my friend
and wish u a marvellous loving life

Answer 8

wow, thats like a true life soap opera going on, what a very difficult situation... man, you have to think about compassion firstly. If he really doesn't love her, and loves you, he needs to tell her in a very compassionate way not like "i love another woman" but something more kindly like "Im very attatched to another woman". How would I feel if my bf was doing this, I would be compassionate towards him, I don't know why, he's just in a very difficult situation, and you shoul dbe there for him, and not cause him more troubles.

Answer 9

it would've helped if this wasn't written in second person.
haha. sorry. but ... you should just leave him. he's probably happy with that girl, and helping her during a tough time.

he's nice. but he thought of engaging her, not YOU. so therefore juts leave. stay friends, but don't participate in a loving relationship with him anymore.

Answer 10

So, basically it sounds like he wants both of you. I guess it depends on how much you want him and willing to wait it out, but if it were me, I would move on and find someone who only wanted me.