What should I expect? What is the best way to deal with situations like these? I am so shocked! He wasn't suppose to leave until 2009, now he has to leave in 2 weeks! I am not prepared for this at all.
2007-11-17 17:23:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be prepared for him to come back crazy. You know most of them get shell shock. You both might need therapy when he returns. He'll need therapy to get over what he's seen and you'll need couples therapy to deal with his changes.
2007-11-17 17:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by Calista 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The best thing you can do now is enjoy your time with him. If you want to make him feel special, maybe bake him a little something. The old saying is true...the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. You already have his heart of course, but this desire never goes away! :)
Keep in touch with him regularly while he is gone. Do not bring up small little things that will stress him out such as "omg the door knob broke and you're not here to fix it!" or any other little things that can wait. He'll have enough stress as it is.
And when he comes home, be exactly as you were the day he left. Don't even do your hair any different. When these guys come home, all they want is normalcy. Don't change your place all around, your bed sheets, nothing! You'd think he won't notice but he will. They just want everything back to normal.
Good luck!
2007-11-17 17:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by Edward 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would spend EVERYDAY with him until he leaves. I don't know really what you should expect, but I know that you will be worried and concerned for his safety at all times. I'm sorry that he's leaving, but I would turn to faith and ask God to keep him safe. There are a lot of support groups out there, too, for military wives, so maybe you could join one of those even if you two aren't married. Enjoy every second of everyday with him and never take each other for granted. Just love. Love is the only thing strong enough for you guys to make it through. Good luck and you'll both be in my prayers.
2007-11-17 17:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son has been in Afghanistan for a year, it is not easy for me and I still don't know how I am supposed to feel. To top it off he married his girlfriend in May when he was here on leave so now he never calls me. She doesn't like me and I hardly know her, he knew her for 3 months only before they married.
So, expect change but try not to worry. Be loving, kind and supportive, and most of all, talk about your feelings with your mom or a supportive person. He will not want to worry about you when he leaves, nor does he need to feel guilt. Write a lot to him and try to be positive for his sake. I pray a lot!
2007-11-17 17:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by kittykris2002 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My dear friend, God bless you and your friend. We have to support our military even though we might think the conflict is fruitless. The whole world is messed up, but our administration and Congress is doing what they feel is best for the country and the world. Only history will tell us if we did the right thing. I pray that your friend returns to you safely and that the wars ends soon. Good luck to you and our military men and women!!!
2007-11-17 17:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by Paulus 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being a veteran I know how he feels. I can't say the same for you. You just need to talk to him tell him you love him and will be there for him. Knowing my girlfriend was there for me, made me feal a lot better about going over there. Their is no better fealing knowing that people at home are thinking about you and are praying for you.
2007-11-17 17:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by Bandit_ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yea im going through this to we just found out that we are going to be parents.write him every day it will keep it going , cry after he is gone dont make him fell worse,and let him no that u love him
2007-11-18 11:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by minda marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pray that he comes home soon after he leaves and have faith that he will be fine and come home safe let him know how much you love him and will miss him and will be there when he comes home!
2007-11-17 17:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by ♥I'm not Bob♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pRAy that he will be safe or maybe you can go with him or tell him just to go to the Philippines because it is safer than in Iraq!
2007-11-17 17:45:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep writing him while he's there. Once you break the line of communication, it will mess with his head and he'll be all worried about you instead of focusing on keeping himself safe and alive.
2007-11-17 17:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by fiveamrunner 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋