I've been dating the same guy for years now and I love him. I ran into an ex boyfriend a couple weeks ago,my boyfriend knows about it, and now I can't stop thinking about him. I don't have feelings for him anymore,but he's having problems and I want to help him out. I don't want to cross the 'friends' line though because I'm happy with Andrew. Would it be okay to help Chris out or should I let him work out his own problems? (btw his problem is he just had a daughter, he left his wife because she was doing drugs and he really doesn't know what to do with the baby, not like he's stupid but he could use a babysitter now and then. I have a son the same age so I don't really know)
2007-11-17 16:40:42 · 4 answers · asked by Bxbabifinest 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on the kind of help you give him. It's completely appropriate to offer assistance to a person who needs it. Think of it this way: what if this were a person who you had not dated, but was experiencing this kind of trouble. How would you help him then? Anything you would do for that friend should be okay for an ex-boyfriend too. Just don't do anything that you would only do with a boyfriend or a husband. You should also talk it over with your current boyfriend so that he is completely aware of the situation and doesn't think you're cheating.
2007-11-17 16:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to be friendly because being friends after being ex'es is the ultimate goal (according to sex and the city). however i personally feel that it lets you get too close and problems start to occur (like what happened in sex and the city). so give him friendly advice, maybe say that there are other babysitters in town, no need to watch his kid, maybe that's getting a bit too "in there".
best of luck!
2007-11-17 16:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can help without your boyfriend finding out, then go ahead. but you are asking for trouble otherwise.
2007-11-17 16:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by Brad K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
xplain the situation to your bf..see if he understands..if he says fine and he trusts u enuf then go ahead, if he doesnt lyk the idea then don't..
2007-11-17 16:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋