So there's one guy who I'm sure that I'm in love with. I've never felt this way about a guy before. I'm crazy about him, but he's had feelings for a friend of mine for YEARS. She doesn't feel the same toward him, but he won't give up on her. It is really distressing since I'm not the most outgoing person in the world and I'm pretty sure he has no idea how I feel. But based on conversations we had over the summer, I think something is there. For now, we're just friends.
Then there's this new guy in my math class, and we talk a LOT. He's really cute, and I feel something toward him, definitely not love, but there's a connection. Anyway, he's single and I'm pretty sure he's not chasing any girls right now.
Should I just give up on the guy who's crazy about my friend and go for the new guy? Or should I keep trying, since I'm sure that my feelings are real?
2007-11-17 16:37:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is a hard decision isn't it? It is possible to care for two people at the same time, but it sounds as if you just want someone, doesn't really matter who. If the one you really love doesn't want you, then you will go for the other guy. Sounds like settling. One thing: Do you really want a guy who is hung up on some other girl? If he did come to you, wouldn't he just be settling? How would that make you feel? You can't make someone care for you when they don't, and you can't make them stop caring for someone else by wishing.
2007-11-17 16:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go after the new guy :)!
The guy who is crazy about your friend doesnt seem to be as interested. Besides, why wait for the guy who is crazy about your friend when you have a guy, in your class, whos single, and is availible :P!
Im just saying, don't wait for the other guy and go the get the new guy :)!
2007-11-18 00:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by marshmellows 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say go for the guy in math class. Key words- He's single and Not chasing after anyone. Girls are strange when it comes to relationships. Your friend might not have feelings for the other guy , but if you get involved with him she might become jealous because he used to like her and she might convince him to cheat on you with her.
2007-11-18 00:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why waste ur time on someone that doesnt want u! get with the other guy and make sure the guy thats chasing ur friend know...if he gets jealous then u know he has feelings for u too and if he dont then u know u made the right decision.
good luck with that
2007-11-18 00:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by itsme21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I'd get to know the new guy better. He sounds like a great person, give him a chance. Ask yourself this: Why do you like the guy that you're sure you're in love with? If the results aren't as "strong" as the results of the new guy, then you know who you like more. Good luck! =]
2007-11-18 00:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by Pudding 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one is oblivious to your feelings your choice is to either act on your feelings and tell him, or give up the ghost so to speak. Even if the other one isn't "the one" You owe it to yourself to get out and try others. No sense two of you postponing living because you have feelings for some one that doesn't have them back.
2007-11-18 00:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it sounds like your feelings in both situations are real, just that in the first situation, your feelings are more strong. if you think you are interested in second guy, then i'd try with him since it can be mutual once you get to know each other. first guy is nice to you, but if he liked you he would have given up on trying for your friend.
2007-11-18 00:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurrrl, you need to work on the one that you talk to in math class. why waste time on someone you can't when you already got someone in the palm a yo hand? and even if you don't fell LOVE, you neva know what might happen if you just wait!
2007-11-18 00:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by elentari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start feeling for someone else you're "love" is not love, love is unconditional and no lives up to him. Re think how your really feel. Good Luck
peace out
2007-11-18 00:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by Remy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go with the second guy and make the first guy jealous and maybe he will forget about your friend and focus on you.
2007-11-18 00:41:27 · answer #10 · answered by Nick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋