My new boyfriend and I (2 months) sometimes have sex two or three times in a day and he never waits for me to orgasm. I would understand if we only were having sex once...but two times or more and I get off none of them??? I feel like I have to rush to get off before he does. When I dont, I end up feeling upset or annoyed afterwards. Why does he act like its only about him? Im there too... Will he be offended if I tell him that it bothers me? Do guys understand that this is annoying...or is it just me that thinks this way GAH! what should I do?
2007-11-17 16:31:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you accept you teach.
Maybe he has doesn't know what you need to be satisfied, so far you have accepted the situation so he feels it is what you like. Communication is everything when two people have different sexual needs, he can't read your mind. Either tell him or show him, just make it sensitive or playful, not an indictment of his ability.
2007-11-17 16:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how u feel my boyfriend does the same thing!!!
You can probably guide him while ur having sex and say things like I like it when u do this....... or before u let him slip it in make sure ur exremley wet and almost at the verge of coming first.
If this does not work just go in the bathroom after he is done with what he calls sex and play with urself until u orgasim. The sex shops have lost of toys for self stimulation. My favourite is this one called the "butterfly" which gives u different vibrations when u place it on ur clitoris.
I hope this helps!
2007-11-17 16:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is more than physical. You have to want it and feel enjoyment in every aspect of it. If he doesn't care enough about you to see if you like it or are getting there or at least trying to make you enjoy it with some move or fore play he's either not experienced or is very selfish. I know guys that all they want is sex, but they say that they enjoy it more when their partner is into it. The bottom line is this: If you are just with him for the sex and that is a major part of your relationship, and he is not giving you what you desire get rid of him, or try to teach him some tricks. If you are have sex more than once a day, I really hope that you have more to your relationship than just that. Suggestion: If all else fails you may want to cut him off for a while (One or two weeks) to get his attention...........Some guys work harder in the bedroom once they have to work harder to get it!!!!
2007-11-17 16:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by True S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a controversy of opinion. i in my view won't wait till marriage, yet i'd by no skill have intercourse outdoors of a committed dating. that is an expression of love, and a great form of people do no longer understand that, even with the undeniable fact that that is no longer the only expression of love there is. there are hundreds of different tips on a thank you to coach affection. anybody is very uncreative in the event that they think of that intercourse is the be-all-end-all show of love. i does no longer devalue it with promiscuity, yet won't over-value it with chastity. besides, it is merely how i've got self belief.
2016-12-09 00:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always told my man what I wanted or what he lacked. He can't read your mind. And I've find they find it sexy and you'll feel empowered. So I would suggest telling boyfriend to slow down or spend more time with foreplay, or whatever works for both of you. Talking is the best aphrodisiac.
2007-11-17 16:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him because baisically im hearing the sex aint good. It must not be to good if you cant get off. So jus speak your mind. you might be doing him a favor
2007-11-17 16:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by p3bbl3s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him. Give him a chance to change. Now if after you tell him, he doesn't change his behavior then you have a problem, because for the rest of the relationship, he won't consider your feelings.
2007-11-17 16:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by Calista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what if he's annoyed. You need to tell him that this is important to you and he's being inconsiderate. Men are well aware that this annoys women so it is up to you to bring it to his attention.
2007-11-17 16:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by Eric N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him, hello you are not there for the free ride, you should be enjoying it. It's not your job to only give him pleasure.
2007-11-17 16:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by Chulis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him hes only thinking about him not you so let him know
2007-11-17 16:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋