Recently a friend for whom I have very deep feelings suggested that we try a long distance relationship. The problem is he's been separated from his wife for1 yr and wants a divorce but cant afford it right now. They live apart and share a child. I will go so far as to say I may love this man and sometimes think he maybe my soulmate but I'm conflicted. How do I know if his feelings are real or he's just on the rebound and lonely? We live 4 hours apart in two different states and I'm in grad school and cant move right now. He has financial constraints and is working on getting his career together. He says he doesnt love his wife and they are over. He says he'll wait for me until I finish school but wants us to try a long distance relationship in the mean time. I have 2.5 yrs left in school. Is it worth it to purse this relationship with the separation, the child, the "baby mama" the distance. All I know is I've wanted to be with him for 6 yrs and this is my chance but should I chance it
2007-11-17 16:22:48 · 8 answers · asked by rosemont66 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are second guessing yourself then I think you already know the answer. Long distance relationships are really hard. If you really love and trust each other then It could work, otherwise no, they don't usually work out.
2007-11-17 16:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by Laughing with you not at you 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT
Life is too short to F around and be wishy washy.
The long distance works to your advantage. Just talk via IM and email and phone. Make him aware that you WILL finish school, and that you want to look at taking it to the next level when he has his act together (not in so few words) with his job and his divorce.
2007-11-17 16:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by TNguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have waited for 6 years then you can wait some more ..WHEN HE IS DIVORCED. Seriously come on..you know what the right thing to do is. Finish school and if its meant to be you will have finished school and he will be single and you can start with nothing in the way...
2007-11-17 16:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relatioships suck. This sounds like a mess waiting to happen. You'll have baby mama drama and you'll know in the back of your mind that he is still married. Doesn't sound like a good time to me.
2007-11-17 16:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by ~Sara~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time with this one. While he is seperated from his wife and may have very strong feelings for you, the truth of the matter is, he's still married. You don't want to risk your heart by trusting it to a man who isn't as free as you are. The man you give your heart to should be as available as you are and he isn't. It's too late to uninvest yourself, since you care for him, just think before you commit yourself completely.
2007-11-17 16:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by sustasue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 23:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by delpiano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he's still married, stay away. You don't even want to go there. The fact that he suggested this makes me think that you really shouldn't continue to be interested in him. If he'll cheat on his wife, why wouldn't he cheat on you?
2007-11-17 16:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um -- how miserable do you wanna be?
2007-11-17 16:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋