We've been friends since 8th grade, and I think he liked me even back then, but I was too stupid to pay attention and act on it, although once in 9th grade, I did get him a calendar for Christmas. (Wow, I can't believe I did that, looking back.) I'm REALLY interested in him now, and we are going to the movies for my 17th b-day on Friday. He's kind of shy, and I want to know if he's interested in me as a friend, or something more. I may bring a girl friend to the movies too.
He usually has one or two things to say to me as I enter the classroom, then that's it, and he leaves without looking back. He babbled on about how he'd have to be really sick and puking and bleeding for his mom to let him stay home, the one day his best friend (a dude) was absent, although he did walk with me out of the classroom that day. This past Fri. we had a fire drill, and I saw him with his friends, his friends sort of pointed me out to him, but he looked up, then back away very quickly. (I was far away.) ..
2007-11-17 16:17:32 · 20 answers · asked by Jess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
.. I guess my question is, does he like me as a friend, or as more. And what should I generally expect him to do at the movies? Thank you in advance for taking time to help me out. :)
P.S. I'm turning 17, he's already 17, and we're both in 11th grade.
2007-11-17 16:17:48 · update #1
A lot of people say that women are complicated, and sometimes, they can be. Or to us men anyway.
Most men are very simplistic and have a hard time hiding their true feelings for a girl. By the way you discribe his actions, it seems he likes you. But you should be the first to make a move. It wold really lighten the tension for him and let him know. Because alot of us guys also fear rejection.
When you go to the movies with him, be yourself, act normal, wait for him. If you want him to do something and he hasn't, tease him a little, let him know.
But it really depends on your choices. I can only give advice, and you either use it, modify it, or reject it.
Much luck
2007-11-17 16:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sassafrass 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I’m a naturally shy guy and when I’m interested in a girl I don’t usually show it. I would like to say he may have an interest in you if he does talk to you in the classroom, even if it is for a brief period. One of the best things to do with shy guys is make the first move, and by that I mean do something little that will get his attention and let him know you like him. I don’t know what that little thing could be though. As for what may happen at the movies, just try and hold his hand while in the theatre and see if anything else develops.
2007-11-17 16:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by Casey Pieper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about computer whiz, but I really AM a shy guy. In fact I have your same problem, only with a girl and she does not know I exist.
Oh but computer whiz DID have the best answer, and lots of other people helped contribute too, so take all your advice and do what your heart tells you.
As for your question, well I totally agree with computer whiz except on some things. If he does ever blush, it means that he likes you and is a little afraid. Not only that, but someone who is DROP DEAD in love with someone, usually a shy boy in love with a girl, then he won't even be able to look them in the eye.
I have many friends who are girls, (who are not pretty, no offense to them) and I'm perfectly comfortable with them. But it's not just looks, someone could want you for your looks but it is a rare thing for someone to like someone else for their looks and persoanlity.
To put it somply, you can find out about him by his pysical actions. (Looking away, not having eye contact, not talking like a blond girl, etc) Then again you do have one problem. You could be the ugliest girl in the world (Not saying that you are) an he would still like you as a friend or as a lover if you are nice to him.
This answer is being written by a shy boy who likes an INSANELY beautiful girl who is also nice. But, I never have the guts to talk to her, or even look at her in the eyes, or even get close to her. Thus, proving my point. But once again, she is beutiful, with a great personality, and I am in love. Which begs the question, are you in love?
According to what you said, he is either in love with you, just doesn't care, or honestly has northing important to say or do. Unfortunately, you would have to take it slowly, alwasy making the first move, and finding out yourself if he lkes you. Oh and you could always ask his friends, chances are, some of them might know.
Once again, if he loves you, just as computer whiz said, he won't talk to you, look at you, and be very shy and almost goofy around you. Just because he's afraid, not because he's shy or mean.
Oh and tell me what happens at the movies. Because I guaratee you he will not do a thing. He might say stuff like "OMG thatwas funny!" at the movie, but he probably wont talk or make a move.
Oh, and good luck, and come out straightforward, but not too much or he'll think the whole thing is joke.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/love
2007-11-17 16:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Charge it... don't even hesitate. hesitation only creates doubt. be confident, what's the worst that could happen? You know he is single, if he turns you down... well that's sucky, but it's part of life and it builds character. I wish you luck and it's sooooooooo much easier than you think. Casually bring up the subject, maybe start being a little more flirty. Not slutty, flirty... you know, eye contact... the soft sexy voice girls have. Hug him when you see him. If he doesn't ask you.... grow a set and ask him out. Plan something to do, and make it a point to hype it up before, and act all last minute and i bet you'll snag him. Overall, you're only 17 so just have fun!!!
2007-11-17 16:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by alan s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he likes you more. Okay so here's the deal. When you go to the movies, don't bring your friend! I don't know what that's all about but it should be just you and him. While you're sitting there hold his hand. If he doesn't pull away that means he likes you. Then you sneak in for the kiss. Just put your hand on his face and turn his head towards you and kiss him. You have nothing to lose. It's not that easy to lose a very good friend if you don't get to be with them romantically.
2007-11-17 16:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a guy's point of view, i can tell you from a fact that from what you have told me, he is in love with you. He is obviously is very shy and probably won't make a move on you in the movie theatre unless you make him comfortable. You need to become his friend first, so that he can feel comfortable around you. As time goes on, start giving hints to him. He'll catch on sooner or later and he will tell you he wants to have a serious relationship with you when the time is right.
2007-11-17 16:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by 11dimensions 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a shy guy will do silly things to get your attention or sometimes he would stare from far places when your not looking because he doesn't want you to notice him but a shy guy will never answer that question because it is possible him to give you anm answer you wouldn't like. Nut if he does in time the answer shall come out. Even if it takes years for him to actually tell you.
2007-11-17 16:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by Shonell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound like he likes you, but scared you might not like him the same way. So he is playing it safe to keep the friendship. The extra girl on the 'date' may scare him and make him draw back in, and it will be a big "IM NOT TAKING THIS DATE SERIOUSLY CUZ YOUR ONLY A FRIEND". So keep it just the two of you.
Give him signs you like him. Whe he tells a joke and you laugh, touch is arm or shoulder..."HAHA, that was a good one". Touching tells. When your standing next to him...stand "too close". Rub/brush shoulders. that kind of stuff.
2007-11-17 16:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to the movies then thats a start that he might like and have an interest in you.
Leave the girlfriend at home as her being there could cause him to feel like a 3rd wheel
2007-11-17 16:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by J Rebel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me give you a sage piece of advice from a very experienced older man. I'm 73 yrs. old.
When I was dating in high school, what really communicated to me, whether and/or how much a girl liked me, was how close she positioned herself to me, regardless of the situation. If she walked really close, almost causing me to stumble, then I knew she really liked, and wanted to be with me. Same thing sitting in a car; if she snuggled up close, not a foot or two feet away, my conclusion was obvious. Think about it. I think you get the idea, and can take it from here.
Wotan
2007-11-17 16:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by Alberich 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋