I have been dating this guy for around a month. Tonight I was working and he went out with his friends. Around 3am I talked to him and they were headed to see if another bar was still open...he asked me to call back in an hour. When I did a girl answered and said "he was busy" and to call back in 2 hours...(she was super rude and made it sound like "they" were busy if you know what I mean) well I sent him a few nasty text messages, then got a call at 5:30 where he was all "confused". He said it must have been his friend's wife's sister who was out with them, cause he had left his phone on the table...and that she must have thought that would be funny. Am I am idiot to believe him? I had talked to him a couple times during the night and he was all "sweetie this" and "babe that" in front of everyone...so except for the one call where she answered nothing was out of the ordinary.
2007-11-17 16:11:54 · 12 answers · asked by Carolyn H 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you've been around a bit you know where I am coming from though...
I'd hate to be made a fool of...ya know?
2007-11-17 16:17:38 · update #1
When I talked to him at 5:30 he was obviously still downtown and walking to the cab stand...or at least that's what it sounded like.
And as far as the whole not "being ready to settle down" we are both in our mid/late 20s and we have talked about the future and he is always the one to bring it up.
2007-11-17 16:28:25 · update #2
I wouldn't worry too much unless you have other reasons not to trust him. Keep you eyes open.
2007-11-17 16:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by pgiggles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all comes down to trust.
dont pull your hair out over this.
if it is bothering you, not knowing what really happened, then jsut sit down with him and ask him. dont sound mean when you ask because you want it do be a casual question not a forceful one. just remember what ever the answe is you have to trust it, because trust is very important in a relationship. and you can tell him that trust is important too. and if he did do anything with this lady, then you have to decide if you are going to dump him. remeber he could have been drunk or something and been out of his state of mind.( i know guys use that as an excuse, but sometimes it is just true) so what ever happens, i hope i helped you out.
and good luck!
2007-11-17 16:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by french fry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the only one who knows what happened and he has given you his vesion, so you have to choose whether to believe him or not. Having only dated for one month, I wouldn't think either of you have made a firm committment not to date others. It would be great if people we begin to date wanted to have an exclusive relationship immediately, but some would just rather "play the field", it may be too early for him to settle down.
2007-11-17 16:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to tell, how much do you trust him and has he ever done anything to make you suspicious. You don't want to be an insecure/jealous woman. Of course don't bury your head in the sand either.
2007-11-17 16:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he'd have asked you to call him back in an hour if he was getting in on with some girl. Sounds like she was just being a bi-ch.
2007-11-17 16:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always start out trusting him. That way you never miss an opportunity that could've been. Maybe be a bit more alert than you normally would be...
2007-11-17 16:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy seems to have the best of all the worlds.If you are also of the same disposition,go ahead.But do not mistake it for LOVE.It is simple temp.infatuation
2007-11-17 16:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by madhu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.......i think your feelings on this are more important than the facts....do you feel like he is the type that can do that? things happen and misunderstandings are so possible in this case especially, but you should be carefull and be aware of anything suspicious but don't get snoopy or obsessed. :)
2007-11-17 16:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by flipfairyflop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you can probably give him the benefit of the doubt, but be careful. If stuff like this keeps happening, it is probably more than just coincidence.
2007-11-17 16:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't believe that friends wife's sister story any more than I do...
He picked up some gal in a bar and went to her place...
2007-11-17 16:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋